Is This A Flag?

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Registered: 12-19-2001
Is This A Flag?
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Wed, 11-06-2013 - 4:25pm

So I thought I finally met a "normal" guy online.  Nice looking, decent enough job, a home, kids of his own.  We texted back and forth yesterday, just the normal get to know each other banter.  During the texting he sent me a pic of himself.  Later in the texting he sent me another.  I thought ooooook.  He either really likes himself or he is just sending pics to make me feel more comfortable that he is a real person?  Then he asked me to text him one of myself.  I told him that the 3 I had on my profile were all I have (truth) and that I did not have them on my phone anyway (another truth). He texted me this morning wishing me a good day.  Nice.  At lunch he texted some more.  He asked what I did and I told him I was an admin.  I mentioned that I worked with about 35 men and 3 other women and that the guys were more dramatic than the girls.  He texted back "lol-you have 35 men looking at you!" I replied haha, I do indeed. But then his next reply threw me a little.  He asked if I date men I work with.  I was again honest and said 1 man, 1 date only, before that never. I then turned the question back on him.  He only said Never and that was that, end of texts. Whatcha think?  Is he a jealous controlling kind of guy?  Too soon to say?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-30-2009
Wed, 11-06-2013 - 9:56pm

You should stop texting him and stop answering/analyzing his texts.  Either you and he want to be phone friends or you want to actually go on a date/meet for coffee, whatever.  You are allowing him to court you via cell phone.........cheap and effortless. 

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-05-2010
Wed, 11-06-2013 - 10:56pm

I think you need more information about him. If he lives reasonably close by, I'd meet him face to face for a beverage as the other poster suggests. After meeting him in person, you might quickly find he wasn't worth the angst. If you and he do connect in person, then you can see if there are other signs of jealousy/being controlling. As most online contacts lead nowhere, stop worrying for now.