Focused on looks only

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Registered: 05-06-2010
Focused on looks only
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Thu, 05-06-2010 - 11:46pm

I have been corresponding to a man through Match.

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Registered: 05-06-2010
Fri, 05-07-2010 - 12:16am

Men are visual creatures. Nothing to do with online dating. Unless you are looking for platonic friends only or plan to date women, looks do matter. You have nothing to lose by meeting him for coffee. You can arrange for an escape by saying it's your cousin's birthday later that evening when you set up a time with him. Then if the date goes well, you can tell him "I told her I had a date and might not make it."

For all you know, he posted old photos of himself and he may be no prize package, so why don't you just meet him and find out?

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 05-07-2010 - 4:02pm
If you do decide that you don't want to meet him, I just think you should say something very vague along the lines of "things don't seem to be working out" or "I don't sense that we have the same interests." If you make things too specific, then he can argue. I don't know how long you have been emailing, but I think what most experts (certainly not me) say is to meet in person pretty fast. Before you meet in person he doesnt' have much to go on but if you are pretty, of course then he's interested in your looks. I do know what you mean though, if you spent a while describing your interests in something & it was ignored, then you are afraid if he's just looking for something physical.
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Registered: 05-06-2010
Fri, 05-07-2010 - 11:35pm
Thanks for your input, everyone.
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Registered: 10-16-2006
Sat, 05-08-2010 - 5:42am

"You're nice and thick"?????? Was that supposed to be a compliment? Sheesh.

I too would be creeped out by too many physical references, I don't blame you.

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Registered: 04-27-2006
Sat, 05-08-2010 - 10:58am
Good for you!! I 100% agree....his emails are creepy. yuck!
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Registered: 09-15-2009
Sat, 05-08-2010 - 12:57pm

Either this guy is dumber than a stump and thinks he's flattering you, or hes' thinking with this pants!


I like something simple and un-arguable like "Thanks for your interest, but I don't think we're a match."

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Registered: 03-20-2010
Sat, 05-08-2010 - 6:31pm

You don't have to politely respond.