folder suggestion & paradigm shift

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folder suggestion & paradigm shift
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Thu, 06-16-2005 - 12:11pm

Okay.

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Fri, 06-17-2005 - 10:55am
A FAQ link is a terrific idea. Maybe linking to the discussion threads?
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Fri, 06-17-2005 - 11:13am

Exactly what I was thinking. So when someone goes to the FAQ link, it will have questions like "We've been talking online for months but can't meet for a while. How do I get through this?" or "He/she seemed so great and we had such a great connection, why did they just vanish?" or "We had a great connection on email and phone but met and nothing was there, what do I do?" Each one could have a little description of the problem and/or links to previous posts that relate to that question.

There are so many FAQs that there would probably be a long list to get through, but it would likely be quicker than going through weeks and weeks of posts but rather a page or two of FAQs.

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Fri, 06-17-2005 - 11:22am

I've been on boards that have FAQs, but that really doesn't help...people don't read them any more than they read through old posts, or they *know* their situation is unique (you can't have a good fantasy r'ship, after all, without thinking that).

I do think a link at the top of the board to the FAQ on the website would be a good idea, but we will still get posts from people who don't read them. At least that way we could refer them to the FAQ easily ;-)!

Sheri

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Fri, 06-17-2005 - 11:26am

Okay, here's another alternative if we don't decide to create a new folder.

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Fri, 06-17-2005 - 11:52am

The very first paragraph of that intro page reads:

Are you looking for advice about online dating? Well, then you’ve come to the right place! From profile tips to decoding emails to getting through that first face-to-face meeting, compare notes with other online daters right here.

That IS the description of this board (I think). It's the same blurb that appears on the main page of this board. The old blurb used to include something about maintaining online love. I am definitely open to hearing alternate suggestions if anyone has any idea how we can reword the intro in order to provide a more accurate description of this community. Maybe I can reword the section that describes folder content. That might help.

Nevertheless, I don't think that we should shoo away, belittle or banish anyone from this board who is looking for advice, even when it doesn't seem to mesh with the general consensus of the board. But I do think it's reasonable for them to expect that they might not get the advice they want - as is the case with ALL message boards.

I really do like the idea of having a FAQ link at the top of the page (although I agree that it won't always work). But there appear to be some "rules" regarding what can appear in board headers and thus far I haven't been able to get authorization to include more (or more accurate) info stuck to the header than what already exists.

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Fri, 06-17-2005 - 11:58am

J-


I really liked having a link on this site to takes you to your OLD website.

CL-Truewild1969

For further information regarding OLD including FAQ please visit our OLD Website at;

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Fri, 06-17-2005 - 3:28pm

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I'm with you 100%. I know newbies sometimes ask questions that we've seen 100 times before. However, I think since we are "seasoned" (well, not me... but you guys... LOL) that it's important to be patient. Many times, when someone comes here for advice, they have reached a point where they have no alternate options or want non-prejudicial opinions. If we get frustrated with them, it shows in our replies. I know it's hard to answer the same type of questions over and over but remember... a person's problem can be their whole world at that time. Compassion should always be the order of the day, no matter if it's a newbie or an oldie you don't agree with...


As for Jodie's suggestions, I definitely think we should get that page up and going. I'd be happy to help as well, it would give me the opportunity to brush up on my coding skills! Jodie/joyouskaya--let me know if I can be of service.


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Fri, 06-17-2005 - 4:03pm
I agree with you to a point,but to be perfectly blunt, It is JUST this type of situation that is greeted with such animosity, because there SO many other topics I have read on this MB over and over and over again are not received with the same reaction. No one is making anyone read or reply to any posts on this board, participation is NOT a requirement. So why can't the people who feel the need to be sarcastic (sorry, sarcasm is not necessary to prove a point) just opt to not answer the post? People are emotionally attached to the things they post, they aren't making them up they are living them. I am sure that many people have left this board in tears because of the sarcastic and cruel comments (taking bets on whether or not someone's love interest is in prison is very cruel)that make me cringe. Now if someone takes pleasure in making people cry, that is a totally different issue entirely. I sincerely doubt that anyone here really wants that.
We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.
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Fri, 06-17-2005 - 6:15pm

I think this is a wonderful discussion and I look forward to hearing how this resolves itself. One great way to come to a decision is to open a poll to vote on the options. Obviously, it comes up frequently enough that the differences between using online dating services and having online relationships should be clarified on this board.


Thank you all for your contributions to this!


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Fri, 06-17-2005 - 8:41pm
I will put my sarcasm aside (well almost) and say that I am getting the feeling on this board that because I didnt orient myself "properly" by reading a years worth of archives that I am not worthy of being here.... sorry but my style generally on the internet is just to click away.... I may not necessarily study all that there is to study about a webpage... I just try to get to the meat and potatoes of something... call it my ADD acting up or whatever but it is only today that i have found the archive link .... to me the meat and potatoes of a message board is the current topics... if I had to read an "opening page" as one suggested as a requirement and go to another page before being "allowed" in, I would have been gone... I do not read license agreements, I click through them... I would do the same with any intro page especially one that directs me to last year's posts... if posting a repeat topic is such a high crime then perhaps I do not fit in...