follow up - taking down profile

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Registered: 12-11-2005
follow up - taking down profile
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Sat, 01-21-2006 - 9:37am

Hello everybody,

I finally brought up "taking profile down" issue with M. He hid his profile in a heartbeat as soon as I told him I wasn't comfortable for him being up there regardless of what he stated on his profile. Everybody thinks differently. So I hid my profile as well. I was inspired to do that because I got an email from this good looking, well educated, well established lawyer who went to same school with me. I immediately got this thought that I might be the one who can be distracted from focusing on dating M. I do like him and want to see how it goes. So that's the motivation of the talk with M.

It's Match.com which gives options for subscribers to come back by letting us to hide yet you still can search and send winks/emails as long as you keep your subscription. If you do resign (meaning cancel the subscription), then you won't be able to communicate. However, you still can go look. And which we all can do without being a member to cetain extent.

I guess it's the trust issue now. I know I won't be looking any longer as long as I am dating M. But I don't know about him.

I am not too happy with just hiding profile. Since he appreciate the fact that I am very open, honest and straight forward of what I think, I could talk to him about it. But I don't want to come across being disrespectful/manipulating/controlling or any kind of "crossing the line" way of communicating.

How do I deal with this?

Jamie

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Sat, 01-21-2006 - 10:21am
If I get you right you want to be exclusive with him? I think taking down your profiles is agreeing to exclusivity without mentioning it by name per say.
if you want to talk about a Relationship, wait a little more.
I dont know how long you ve been together but if you let things flow normally they will go in the right direction. just be a little patient. With all my ex bf's I never discussed exclusivity or wether we are long term or not. It was always implied in our discussion and normally the boyfriend would introduce me to his friends as his GF to his friends after a month or 2 of dating :) so wait and see.
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Registered: 02-19-2004
Sat, 01-21-2006 - 12:36pm

I had a profile on match a couple years ago that I created when my bf and I had broken up for a month.

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