Forget it

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Registered: 05-21-2008
Forget it
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Sat, 08-15-2009 - 8:29pm
I just wanted to let everyone know, for what it's worth, that I was considering giving online dating a try, but have definitely decided against it after reading all the posts here. It doesn't seem that being able to "meet" so many more men than I do in real life, on line, will make much of a difference. Thank you all for giving me insight into the hell that is online dating.
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Registered: 02-01-2005
In reply to: d009371592
Sun, 08-16-2009 - 4:18pm
Sure, it's kind of hellish, but a few people here have been successful at it...

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Registered: 01-28-2005
In reply to: d009371592
Mon, 08-17-2009 - 2:21pm

I met my DH online, and for all the trouble I had with it I'd do it all again. You can't win the lotto if you don't buy the ticket.

OLD is not for everyone, though, you know yourself best.

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Registered: 08-08-2009
In reply to: d009371592
Mon, 08-17-2009 - 3:50pm

I met my boyfriend within a few weeks of joining Match. It does work. Just keep in mind, people don't come to boards to talk of all the joy and happiness they experience with someone they met online--this is a place to gripe! Its a place to vent, and a place for advice when something doesnt go our way or we are confused. Of course I am not gonna come write post after post about what a great date I went on, or brag about gifts, or other things that happen in relationships. Good things DO happen, people just dont

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Registered: 09-02-2008
In reply to: d009371592
Mon, 08-17-2009 - 7:43pm

I don't know if I entirely agree that OLD is a

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Registered: 06-09-2008
In reply to: d009371592
Mon, 08-17-2009 - 7:50pm

Whoa now.....IMHO online dating is most certainly NOT hell!


In fact I think its awesome, fun, and a great way to meet ppl.


In fact...........I met the love of my life online, dated him, married him one amazing year ago and plan to grow old sharing my life with him.


If not for OLD I may still be searching for my soul mate. Luckily fate, and the good Lord brought us both to the same OLD site and here we are now.....happy, fufilled and madly in love!!!!!


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Registered: 06-07-2004
In reply to: d009371592
Tue, 08-18-2009 - 9:10am

Yeah I agree with the other post about the reason these types of boards exist. They are not here for primarily success stories. There are message boards for all sorts of things, cars, computers, software, you name it. No one is going to post if all they have to say is my car is so wonderful I never have any problems with it. Mostly people go searching online for solutions to problems, advice, etc.

Sure OLD is risky. Yup you might get hurt, burned, disappointed, all of the above. But nothing ventured nothing gained.

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Registered: 12-27-2001
In reply to: d009371592
Tue, 08-18-2009 - 6:15pm

I just have to say "thanks" to everyone here for the calm, positive feedback to the OP.


Right now, I'm taking it slowly, the online dating thing, and I get those twinges like everyone else--twinges of "Oh, here we go again," when I'm sitting across from someone with my glass of vino, my inner critic at work. Or I could be imagining his inner critic at work, of course.


So true, isn't it, the idea that happiness doesn't make a good read. That when things are going well in the dating department, well, you're not about to throw it up in everyone's face. Although we looove reading success stories, too. Especially if they're the successes that were difficult to come by, so we know the back story and the history behind it.


Anyway, just thought I'd put that out there.

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Registered: 11-08-2003
In reply to: d009371592
Wed, 08-19-2009 - 10:10pm

I realize I've been a bit of a naysayer since I returned to the board but its because a lot of the successes are because the people went into it with eyes wide open and didn't build expectation of something that may not be there.

I met my partner of 1.5 years at a POF event. We went out as friends for almost a year before we started dating. He is a wonderful person and we have so many things in common that we joke about having been in parallel universes before we met.

I also have made a number of friends through online dating.