Found out he has drug history

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Registered: 05-23-2003
Found out he has drug history
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Tue, 02-07-2012 - 12:34am
Started talking with a guy on Match; I discovered that his screen name is his last name. I looked him up on my state's court records; there were a few minor traffic violations (no seat belt, no insurance, etc), but there were also 2 that stuck out to me--one for possession of THC (marijuana) in which he pleaded guilty, and one for a hit and run which was dismissed. These were about 15 years ago, which would have made him about 18 at the time (we're both 33). Would this be a deal-breaker? I have never done drugs, nor do I intend to start. I just wonder, since I know this info, should I chalk it up to something that maybe was an experiment, or do I have reason to be alarmed? Also, how would you go about asking someone in a not too obvious way if they ever did or still do drugs? I would like to ask him; if he lies to me, then I know to not continue communication. Any opinions would be appreciated...thanks!
    

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Tue, 02-07-2012 - 10:02am
From what he's told me, he isn't much of a drinker but he asked me what my favorite bar is and told me 2 of his. He recently graduated with an Associate's degree and is in school to complete a Bachelor's. He is also very active and is currently training for a 24 hour mountain bike race in the spring. He says he loves spending time with his grandma, which I think is awesome (if it's true). Of course, with OLD, sometimes the profile doesn't match reality.
    
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Tue, 02-07-2012 - 9:39am

This is a tricky one.

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Tue, 02-07-2012 - 8:43am
Several clues indicate it's the same guy...for one, his screen name is his last name with 1017 behind it; the court records list the guy's BD as 10/17/78, which makes them both 33 years old. The city where the Match guy is from correlates with the city listed on the court records, and the last name is not one you would hear everyday. I am very confident it is the same guy.
    
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Tue, 02-07-2012 - 5:53am

How can you be sure this is the same guy?

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