Four Signs That She's Into You

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Four Signs That She's Into You
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Wed, 04-27-2005 - 3:54pm

Picked this up from the MSN home page. What do you all think? True or False?

http://msn.match.com/msn/article.aspx?articleid=3638&articleSrc=2&lid=159




Edited 4/27/2005 4:10 pm ET ET by luv2004
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Wed, 04-27-2005 - 4:37pm

Okay, I may toss my hair or lean towards a person, but it's just to give my hair volume (it's flat and thin) or to hear them better in a noisey place. Doesn't always mean i'm into the person I'm talking to. And who licks their lips seductively?! Come on! What if the person has chronic chapped lips?

To me, signs that a person is interested in you is:

1. They smile at you when you catch their eye
2. They come over to talk to you and introduce themselves
3. They purposefully touch you ie. touch your hand or back when conversing
4. They ask for your number

I don't read into body language, it can be too deceiving.

Layx2

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Thu, 04-28-2005 - 2:00pm

I think there's a LOT to body language; it really is the majority of human communication. (Which is why it's so important to meet someone early instead of trading emails forever... but that's another topic.)

But... I think that these kinds of articles make WAY too much out of a few little points. As pointed out, it might just be dry lips, or a habit of fluffing one's hair.

Some guys do have radar and can use body language to really hone in on a woman; some women are unconsciously good at sending signals; and then there's some people who're horrible at both. Most of us are in the middle.

My own belief is that if a guy tries to use too many of these things, he's thinking about them too much and not paying enough attention to what is actually being said or happening, so it's probably best to read these things and then not worry about them too much.

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Thu, 04-28-2005 - 2:37pm

I didn't care much for the article. I'm not a big fan of body language becuase you can read too much into it.

I have a bad back and if I've been sitting a long time I have a tendency to fold my arms tightly across my chest. It relieves the pressure. Some people would interpret that as "shutting them out" which would not be the case.

There have been similar articles about men. They really just got too detailed. Sighting such things as the way he smiles and folds his hands. I think you could really make yourself crazy thinking about every little twitch!

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Thu, 04-28-2005 - 5:11pm

Totally agree!

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Thu, 04-28-2005 - 9:10pm

>>Random-guy-across-the-room might have read one of these articles and notice that I'm sticking my chest out as a biological signal that I'm able to nurse my offspring...<<

He He He!

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Mon, 05-02-2005 - 1:48pm

I'm actually not good at that one at all. And I know it.

The standard: supergoddess drives 338 miles to meet me at my house.

That took courage. That took valor.

'meeting at the art museum' there is not much effort in that.

Thus, below the standard.

I understand a girl's security issues. And I agree.

But from my point of view I'm not a stalker or psycho.

Picking you up for dinner at your house, should not, but is, out of
the question.

When I am out and about, I never forget what the standard is.

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Mon, 05-02-2005 - 3:52pm
I read this article last week and this weekend when I went on a date with Mr. Non-Committal, I had noticed the way I had my body (feet and torso) all turned toward him. It made me remember this article and think that yes, you can read too much into some things, but that there are a number of unconscious moves that both genders do that will indicate they are into you. When I noticed how I was sitting - I did a "huh, look at that! I didn't even notice!" So I wouldn't say to base what you think entirely on body language, but you can see some things.

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Mon, 05-02-2005 - 4:36pm

HUH?

Are you saying that being SAFE and meeting in a public space is below your standards?

ANY guy that pushes me to meet him in his home when I don't even really know him is instantly written off.


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Mon, 05-02-2005 - 5:31pm

I don't think that took courage and valor, I think that was at best, supremely naive, and at worst, reckless disregard for her own safety.

This may be a harsh view, but I honestly can't see any woman who remotely has her act together getting in a car to drive 338 miles to the home of a stranger she met online!!! There's just something WRONG with that picture. It goes to the whole emotional health issue discussed a week or two ago. Does a woman who's firing on all cylindars really DO that kind of thing? I don't think so. And that in and of itself should be a red flag as to her emotional health and stability.

YOU may know you're not a stalker or a psycho, but SHE doesn't. Unless she's run a background check on you and checked several reliable personal references, she has NO IDEA who or what you are, and it's just plain stupid to take a chance with one's personal safety like that.

Sheri

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Mon, 05-02-2005 - 7:29pm

Hi boxsterboy,

I would say the woman who drove 338 miles to meet you at your home took courage and valor to do so - well I do not agree with you one bit - I say she was quite stupid! Any woman who would do this is either so desparate or something is wrong with her to not care about her own safety! You know what type of person you are - but she doesn't! Stupid, stupid, stupid! Not expecting her to meet you at your house or allowing you to pick her up is just being respectful of her safety now.

Also, for your *own* safety, she could be a psycho woman (who seems normal)with a debt to settle with guys who have done her wrong and she could get into your house and get you to trust her then she could kill you or do a bobbit number on you! Is having a first date worth the chance of getting that done to you or losing your life over?!!! Be more careful for your own sake!

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On the body language, I think you can sense some things with it but can't count on it completely, because when a person is nervous with a first meet, they may do some body language things that make it look like they are not into you, when they may be, but just somewhat nervous and their body is showing differently.

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