Freaky Incident!!
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| Fri, 01-21-2005 - 11:51am |
You may have remembered my posting last week about a 54 year old guy who I had set up a tentative date with for lunch this past Tues? I didn't want to meet him and was not sure what to do?
Well after reading your responses, I sent him a quick email letting him know that after giving it some thought, I felt that we were not a match and I wished him well. This was last Wed.
A little background info. He is a Dentist that owns a Dental practice in the area. What turned me off about him was 1-He felt the need to tell me that he only insisted on dating beautiful women. I hate it when men tell me this as if they feel that I am flattered. For it reeks "SHALLOWNESS". 2-On our 1st phone call he asked me..."If you could go anywhere for a weekend, where would it be?" I replied "San Francisco". He then said...well it looks like I will be planning on whisking you away to San Francisco soon." To me, this is guy speak for..."I want to get in your pants as quickly as possible". Thus leading me to be completely turned off by him.
Well after I send the email on Wed, I get a voice mail telling me that he is excited about Tues. He can hardly wait...oh and he then adds....BTW, my email crashed so I have not be able to check my email....Hummm. I ignored him.
I get several more VM from him over the weekend, and then on Monday. I probably should have called him and told him that I was not going to meet him...but I felt he was just refusing to take "no" for an answer. On Tues morn I get a frantic VM telling me that he is wondering what is going on...? He really wants to see me...and I am to call him immediately!! I am like...WTF?? Anway..I am sitting at my desk at 10:30 that morning and I get a call from my receptionist telling me I have a visitor waiting for me in the Lobby. Would you beleive it is him??? He has roses!!! OMG...I was soo F#$@ing livid....then I became frightened. I just told him that I will not be making lunch today, or any other day and left. He yells...Jodie..Call me! I did alert our security dept and reported him.
What a freaky..scary incident.
Anyway..I am not sure if anyone had this sort of thing happen, but I thought I should share...this is one of those instances that give OLD a bad name.
Jodie

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Definitely freaky.
Now tell me what you are NOT going to do with the next guy???
Jodie, how the heck did he know where you worked????
Sheri
I think it's more like giving men a bad name.
That's a little...ok, maybe a LOT weird! Glad you notified security.
The only thing I can think of is that if his computer did crash, he lost all e-mails, etc. (if he was using Outlook or a system e-mail as opposed to a web-based e-mail like Yahoo). But, when calls aren't returned for days on end--it's usually a pretty good sign someone is finito'd with someone else!
Michelle
Michelle
Fill with mingled cream and amber,
I will drain that glass again.
Such hilarious vis
I gave him my work phone number. It is not a direct number. I will do that sometimes, so as to no be bothered after business hours. However..to answer Ann Marie's question, I won't be giving out my work phone anymore.
I have never had this problem happen before. I never even thought about them coming to my work. My private number and address are hidden specifically because I date online and I dont' want anyone to find out my info.
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Before we'd even met, I had an online guy show up at the bookstore where I worked part time. I had not given him any specific information, just "bookstore." I hadn't even told him what nights I worked. He found me at the fourth one he tried -- who knows if he'd been there looking for me other nights when I WASN'T working!
I was freaked because he was nearly 250 pounds heavier than what he'd indicated, but Sherri and all the other veterans here pointed out the truly scary, controlling aspect of that kind of behavior.
I feel for ya, doll... it is INCREDIBLY freaky.
"I get several more VM from him over the weekend, and then on Monday. I probably should have called him and told him that I was not going to meet him...but I felt he was just refusing to take "no" for an answer. On Tues morn I get a frantic VM telling me that he is wondering what is going on...?"
Why didn't you call him back and tell him what you said in the email? How was he refusing to take "no" for an answer when he hadn't read your email saying so? I do agree he shouldn't have shown up at your work but another lesson learned.
Lisa
That is a lousy experience, true. Sorry you had to deal with it. :(
I'm with FT, though- I don't think it gives OLD a bad name as much as it gives *this guy* a bad name. I don't know why people keep insisting on blaming OLD for their bad experiences!
If you're catalog shopping, and UPS delivers you a sweater that smells funny, doesn't fit, has one arm longer than the other, and the color of it is much uglier in person than it was in the catalog, do you blame UPS?
No! You send the thing back!
Well, the OLD sites are just the delivery guys. Don't blame the delivery for the product! :)
I think he claimed that his email went down so that you would have to cancel the date with him via the phone- and it would give him a chance to talk you out of it and convince you to still go out with him. People with egos that big are always sure that they can talk you into anything.
But to SAY something like the beautiful woman thing... just socially unacceptable.
About the only thing I can think is that in a goofy, bass-ackwards way, he was trying to pay you a compliment and say that you are beautiful.
Hopefully this guy has a little money left over from buying the roses, and he can go buy a clue with it.
Maybe you need to carry around a rubber stamp... "RETURN TO SENDER"! LOL You could just WHAM pop it right across this guy's forehead.
Lisa-I truly felt as NGOL said, that he did in fact get the email but was acting like he didn't get just so he could try to talk me into meeting him anyway. I am usually a pushover in person and honestly, if he got me on the phone, I would have probably gone. Who knows what would of happened if I did start dating him.
NGOL-I really didn't mean to blame OLD. I am actually pretty defensive about OLD...I guess my point was just you can never be too safe. I really am pretty smart when it comes to meeting men and how much info I divulge about myself. You learn something everyday.
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