freaky people online?

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Fri, 10-27-2006 - 11:00am

So i had sort of an odd experience last night. I joined lavalife the other day...not sure what i think about it...lots of people seem to want to talk about sex and i'm getting contacted by people from all over the country and the world, not just my area...so this one guy and i talked a bit, then he wanted to talk on the phone, I pretty much said no, but he kept asking. That's where i should have just turned it off I guess. So he gives me his number, i call him, and he really told me a lot about himself. He did NOT even have a picture though! i kept asking him to send one, he said he didnt know how to and that he'd never even sent an email before. He was apparently married for 10 years, got divorced because his wife cheated on him. He was asking me a lot about me as well. He described himself as good looking of course and went on to say i woudl not be disappointed with his appearance. He felt the need to throw in there that his ex wife had been a clothes/lingerie model (i guess implying that hot women like him?) He lives an hour and a half away from me and towards the end of the phone call he started talking about sex and all the things he would do to me. He then begged me to go out to night...he lives an hour and a half away. I told him i had plans, he told me to break them, I told him no, he finally said well think about it and we hung up

Today I am sort of shocked by the conversation but at the same time am sort of like, eh whatever. I really dont want to meet this guy! even if he is cute. He was saying how he is not really liek this and probably sounds like he's all about sex, but he has only been with 4 women in his entire life. He kept telling me that i 'sound sexy.' I said you probably do this with different girls every night. He of course said he didnt.

SO yeah, go ahead make fun of me...I definitely dont know if lavalife is a place to meet people, what do you think?




Edited 10/27/2006 11:04 am ET by corbeach

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Fri, 10-27-2006 - 11:25am

I question sometimes myself if CL is the best place to meet people also. I just posted a question regarding whether I should post an ad on that site.

Never tried Lavalife, but on CL, you get the loons also (ok, ladies, I know...I should expect that from a free web site!).

I don't have any good advice for you, but your post brought up an incident that happened to me just this week. I was chatting with one guy who works in a very stressful job position. So I asked him how did he cope with the stress. So he goes on typing to me that he worked out or, get this: he relieved himself.

Ooookay.....

Just wanted to share with you that incident because your post made me think about my freak of the week person. lol. :)

Wishing you luck on your search,
cunygrad2007

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Registered: 03-16-2006
Fri, 10-27-2006 - 12:42pm

I don't think anyone out here will make fun of you!

heather 5-18-10
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Fri, 10-27-2006 - 12:48pm

Yeah the thing was that i did like this guy's personality before he started talking abuot sex. He seemed really nice. then it got weird. He kept insisting that he wasnt just about sex...but i dunno. We did talk on the phone for 2 hours. ACK. I dont know...i will say online dating has been an intresting experience.

My yahoo sub expires next week, I'm not renewing right now...I want to enjoy the holidays and not be going on unfilling dates, plus i'm busy with work and school. I think after the holidays i'll start up somethign again. I am talking to a few people...i guess we'll see what happens, but my guess is nothing!

I never would have thought connecting with someoen could be so tough...granted i've only been doing this 2 months and Im glad i met people...i guess i was hoping by my 3rd or 4th meet with someone i'd have found a relationship. LOL!

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Fri, 10-27-2006 - 2:18pm
I will tell you though that the holidays are prime season
heather 5-18-10
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Fri, 10-27-2006 - 2:31pm
i can see that happening...but I probably wouldnt find anyone online to actually spend the holidays with at this point you know? Even if i found someone a month from now..we'd be doing our thing for the holidays. And I am the type who if I do find someone i like, i get really anxious and wonder, what's going on...and it isnt always a lot of fun until i do know for sure what's going on...hard to explain...but i'd rather have my holidays be stress free and not worrying about finding a boyfriend.
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Fri, 10-27-2006 - 5:13pm
It's so funny that I pulled all my profiles as well. I do my profiles in the spring and pull them in the winter and it does seem that most people do the bulk of their dating in the winter. Oh well I too am not going to bring anyone to a family holiday or a work holiday event that I have been dating for a month. NO WAY! Not going to happen. Plus I am way too busy in the winter with hockey.

Smile,

Deirdre

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Sat, 10-28-2006 - 11:54am
They ALL say "Of course not" when you ask them if they talk like that to a different girl every night.

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Sat, 10-28-2006 - 12:47pm
yeah he actually called twice yesterday and i felt nervous...i didnt call back so hopefullly he gets the hint...I think lavalife is sort of a waste of time...plus i HATE how no one has their pic up and they start chatting with you...I"m sorry but I need to know who i'm talking to...or else it seems so silly. I had a pic up for a while...however someone i work with saw me on and contacted me! UGH! i had only been on like 2 days...so i took it down...i hate this!
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Registered: 06-02-2006
Sat, 10-28-2006 - 1:02pm

I have found OLD to be a drag as well... and I'm a guy... I had photos on my profile.. I found that I was hesitant to reply to profiles without photos, so it was only fair. I pulled my profiles last week... Im tired of the routine, the rut.. the same old set of questions... I need a break...

One a brighter side of things, I went to a party last night and met THREE potential dates... and chemisty was there... that getting out in publis gave me more opportunity I think that the recent round of on line profiles...

Just my 2 cents...

Jim

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Registered: 02-02-2005
Sat, 10-28-2006 - 1:08pm
that's awesome....wish i had a party to go to

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