Frustrating

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Frustrating
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Wed, 11-09-2005 - 4:52pm

OK, so I had a first meet on Monday night. The guy was nice enough but I didn't feel a lot of zing there. He wants to go out again and I will take my own advice and go because I think you have to give it a couple of tries before you completely dismiss someone who seems like a nice enough person for no chemistry. He definitely seems WAY more into me than I am into him tho. He asked at least twice on the first meet if he could take me on a more "formal date". AND he tried to kiss me at the end. I did the deft head turn to make it land on my cheek. Sorry - not kissing anyone on a first meet much less a guy that I am not feeling it for!

Next, was the guy that had tried to push to meet me with only a day's notice and to meet his friends the same night. When I said no, we postponed to this week. I hadn't heard by last night so I send an email asking if we were still on or not. He sends this email back saying that sorry, things had been really hectic and that he didn't believe in dating more than one woman at once and he had met someone that he might have a connection with. Ummm, huh? Why so aggressively pursue me then all of a sudden you have met someone else? I kinda think it is hooey because he claimed he would be in class last Thursday and then out of town all weekend. So one way or another, the story is kinda fishy. I appreciate him having the cajones to say something instead of ghosting (I suppose), but it is just strange. Regardless, I wasn't super excited anyway about meeting him. So I went ahead and closed him. I'm not going to sit around and wait to be his second choice. I thought about sending a response back about how I thought it was hooey but figured why. I don't care that much to put forth the effort.

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Registered: 09-14-2005
In reply to: vexer_hw
Wed, 11-09-2005 - 8:19pm
I haven't been excited about a guy on OLD in a LONG time. Maybe even years. Wouldn't that be such a welcome feeling? To be excited about the person sitting across from you rather trying to talk yourself into it? "Well, I suppose I could get used to that annoying laugh." LOL I miss that feeling. Don't you?
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Registered: 10-17-2002
In reply to: vexer_hw
Wed, 11-09-2005 - 9:09pm
Yes! I definitely do. Generally, I almost dread the initial meets. At least with these two, I wasn't dreading it, but on Monday when I got there, it was just meh. My stomach didn't flip, my heart didn't pitter patter - nothing. I don't expect love at first sight or anything. I'd just like to feel excited and interested in the guy I am with. Again, nothing wrong with this guy - he just didn't do it for me. Sigh... where is that excitement?

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