frustration setting in.........
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| Wed, 11-29-2006 - 9:37pm |
Ok so here I go....
First of all, I want to thank all of you for all of your posts!! It is good to know that I'm not alone in any of this. Although I don't post often I do read everyday and you are all so helpful in your advice! So here's my "story"....
I am 30 yrs old...and it has been a long time since I've "put myself" on the market. My main focus in life the past couple of years has been my education and getting my career up and going. So in August, I decided it was time and I was definitely ready to get into the lovely world of dating again! Fun, FUn! So first experience of meeting someone online...UGH. I talked to the guy for a couple of weeks then we decided to meet. Well...turns out..the guy basically lied on his profile!! I literally had to concentrate on not laughing in his face when I saw him. He was MUCH shorter than he put on his profile..and well quite a bit heavier and well LOOKED NOTHING like his pic. So instantly...wanted to run the other direction when he opened the door. (YES I was stupid and went over to his house--TRUST ME it will NEVER happen again) Ok Second experience...turned out much better. Ended up dating the guy for 3 months...but he was 35, living with mom and dad., which I didn't find out until into the 2nd month...on his profile he said he had his own house...but failed to say he yes, owns a house...hmm but doesn't live in it...and well to make a long story short..just didn't put in much effort into the relationship and the only time I saw him was one the weekends on HIS schedule..so as you can imagine this got old quick so I ended it!
So here I am today! I currently have started chatting (im'ing & e-mail) with 3 guys. I have started talking to one over 2 weeks ago..another one about a week and well one new prospective tonight. So here's the deal. THe one guy I have been talking to for over 2 weeks now...well he seems really nice...and says he definitely wants to get to know me..and he definitely wants to meet up "SOMEDAY". hmm someday huh, so I'm most likely going to just brush this guy off....someday...nice..I'm not looking for an e-mail buddy here. Which I've basically told him but he doesn't seem to want to move forward in anyway...yes he's faithful at sending me offline messages every morning and at night..saying he's thinking of me...which I admit are nice to wake up too...but am feeling I am completely wasting my time as I don't see it going any further...HELLO HE"S 37--he's definitely not getting any younger! So pretty much he's gone! Second guy..we talk online every night..seems funny, nice, and sincere..again he's 37. He gave me his number last week..but I was just not ready to call...since then we've talked a lot and last night gave him my number. Said he would call tonight...hmm well its 9:20pm and still have yet to hear from him..so chances are he got busy..which he did say he is super busy at work this week and maybe putting in extra hours...or he forgot..hello talking about a guy here OR he's not interested! Who knows..still early....will keep you posted! And guy #3, he's 33, an got an e-mail from him yesterday..1st one after he contacted me on a personals site..and not wanting to seem eager...I waiting until today to respond to him...so we will see how that turns out!
So basically, I am slowly finding out why I hate and love dating...it's exciting at thinking of the possibilities...but also discouraging. I'm sick of the games already! I believe I am truly ready to settle down and just want to be with 1 person...I don't know how much more of this I can take!!!! The unknowns of this online dating thing is killing me...like is he really telling the truth..is he who he says he is...is he going to turn out to be just an emailer or im'er or will he want to meet up?? uugghh the questions..are just rolling at all times in my head!! UUGGHHHH I welcome any and ALL ADVICE???? Sorry this was so long hope I didn't bore you too much!! Thanks for listening if you've made it this far!!
| Thu, 11-30-2006 - 1:55am |
