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| Sat, 09-16-2006 - 8:17pm |
More reasons why another dating hiatus is sounding better and better:
--I get a text message yesterday from a number I vaguely recognize but can't place. It says "good morning, happy Friday". I'm like, who the hell sent me this? I finally figure out it's from a guy I talked to on the phone once about a month ago--who talked about himself nonstop. I was relieved when he didn't call back. But no, unfortunately, it's not over--instead, I get to pay 10 cents for the privilege of receiving his stupid text message that he sends after not calling me for a month!! What an idiot. Lesson for the guys out there: after not calling a woman for a month, sending her a text message she has to PAY for is not a good move. Not everyone pays the extra $$ for unlimited texts or whatever. ASK if it's ok before you send someone a text!
--first meet for coffee this morning. We order at the same time and he carefully gets out his $2.50 for his coffee, leaving me to pay for mine. OK, game over, thanks for playing, dude. Plus on top of that he had one of those booming "outdoor" voices that makes you want to cringe and hide under the table because you know everyone is looking at your table thinking "keep it down, dude!" I tried to be polite but I just wanted to leave. Hopefully he won't call.
--two other guys I've had recent first meets with both claim they want to see me again but both are, coincidentally, sick (at least they are not sick with the same thing). Hmmm. I'll give them the benefit of the doubt but hmmm nonetheless.
Sheri

I've decided on a dating hiatus myself as well. After finding nothing but frogs on OLD on and off for a year, I finally met a great guy. We dated for just right at 2 months, got intimate, talked really deeply about what we were looking for and our feelings, etc...I made him a romantic candlelit dinner with wine on Wednesday, we started talking again about stepping it up...and then he dumped me. In an e-mail the next day, he said that he just "didn't see a future for us".
Just dandy, after I spent close to $100 on the romantic dinner...
So I'm definately taking a dating hiatus, and most likely, that was my last attempt at OLD...I'm tired of paying for memberships and getting nothing out of it, and then only finding guys that want to date casually, but never commit to anything.
I'm starting to think that guys only do OLD to up their chances of meeting girls to sleep with that aren't just sluts...
I feel your pain.
Hey Sheri. Welcome back in country. How was your trip?
Insofar as your second dating hiatus, don't you think you might be (re)delaying the "pain?" My take is that who/whatever you are attracting will continue to show up at your doorstep (or this case on your cell phone). I don't have any magic answers but in my experience and my view is that until something gets resolved inside then it will continue to show up outside.
Good luck and take care,
Mark
Hey, Mark...my trip was good, thanks! I posted a little about it in the Helsinki thread in the other folder.
I honestly don't think it's still a matter of me having work to do...not that we aren't all works in progress but I feel pretty strongly I've worked out most of what I can at this point (because I do subscribe to Hendrix's theory that some things can only be worked out in the context of a relationship). So really, it's more a matter of not allowing the flakes and inconsiderate dudes (who for better or worse seem to make up 95% of the dating population, and I know it's not just me who experiences this ;-)) to stay in my life once I realize their tendencies. I can't avoid these guys altogether (they are too prevalent) but I can decide to stop having contact with them once they show their true colors (and I do...I didn't do anything to invite the unwanted text message after not hearing for the guy for a month, for example). I just am tired of having to deal with them at all...but if you're going to date, it can't be avoided, unfortunately.
Sheri
Sorry to hear about all the other bad, frustrating OLD stories...I know we all go through the same not-so-fun experiences which is why I am happy to have this board!
Sheri
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