Funny discussion w/ my mom about OLD

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Funny discussion w/ my mom about OLD
Sun, 12-20-2009 - 7:28pm

My mom is almost 84 yrs old. I was talking to her tonight and she mentioned that my cousin, who is 40 & was widowed a few years ago has a date tomorrow. She says "Guess how K met this guy? On the internet." I said, "Mom, this is how most people over 40 meet nowadays. You can't go to a club cause everyone there is in their 20's, so if you don't meet people at work, it's hard to find people." And I told her that my other cousin's 25 yr old DD met her DH through EHarmony.

Then I said that I would probably be signing up for OLD since I hadn't met anyone since my div, but I probably would spare her the details so she wouldn't worry.

I have to think that when she was young & before there were computers, people didn't have to worry about this since it wasn't 1/2 of the population getting divorced so there weren't all these middle aged people who were single anyway who had to worry about how to meet.

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Mon, 12-21-2009 - 10:14am

That's funny. I think the internet is a mystery to a lot of older people so they can't fathom that you can actually meet decent people that way. And too, you can't ignore the news reports of pedophiles and internet crimes that are rampant.

It's a different world for them. My mom is in her early 70s and I don't tell her that I periodically do OLD. She'd worry too. It's just foreign to them.

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Wed, 12-23-2009 - 3:06pm

I remember when I first met someone online. I was in college, 20 years old, and I was the first person I knew who had met anyone online. I remember telling my parents (who told my aunt and uncle) when I was home for Christmas break that I had plans to meet this guy Steve when I got back to school. Everyone was totally weirded out and thought I was totally insane! I wish I had a video of their reactions, honestly.

With one of my boyfriends that I had met online, we had this really elaborate story about how we met that we both memorized and could recount in detail. It was so silly! I'm really glad the stigma surrounding online dating is starting to fade. My husband and I don't hesitate to tell anyone who asks how we met. I was 24 when I met him; I could have gone to bars (which I did) or done any other number of things to meet people (and I did), but OLD worked! I met at least 50 different people using OLD, I'm not too ugly or socially awkward or anything, but I've never once had a guy I met in person ask for my phone number... OLD worked like a charm and got me tons of dates. If I didn't have OLD, I can't imagine how different my life would be now.



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Wed, 12-23-2009 - 3:24pm
What's funny is when you think about how people used to meet before OLD. When I was in my 20's I met a BF that I went out w/ for over a year in a bar. I mean, people are always telling you to be careful w/ people you meet over the internet, but how was it better to give your phone no. to someone you didn't know anything about that you met when both of you were drinking? lol I mean, probably the only "facts" I learned about him that night were his age, what kind of work he did & where he lived (when you're in your 20's most guys are single, so not even thinking about that). I guess the only deterrent for any possible dangerous behavior was that it was the summer & I was living at home w/ parents. At least w/ OLD, esp. when you get older, you can weed out a lot of traits that you don't want to waste time with, such as where they live, age, do they have kids, etc. where if you met someone in a bar or at a dance, all you have to go on is appearance and whether they seem "nice." You could spend a lot of time talking, then find out there is a real deal-breaker.