FWB vs dating relationship
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| Wed, 11-30-2005 - 8:41am |
Hi all ~ I'm looking for your opinions here. I keep chatting with men who tell me they are looking for Friends w/Benefits type relationships. A term which, to me, has a shady connection to it. I keep saying that I'm looking for a dating relationship not necessarily leading to marriage. It occured to last night that we might be saying the same thing and I may be writing people off too quickly.
My thought is that a dating relationship to me is going on some dates, if you like each other maybe moving on to relations, and it either leads to long term or it doesn't. So effectively, isn't that the same thing as FWB?
Disclaimer - I'm not talking about the people that want to shack up with 2-20 different people because, ick. I mean the people that are busy with their lives and really aren't ready for a long term relationship...working on career, spend time with kids, running for office...you get what I mean.
Thoughts?

No, it's not the same thing at all, IMO. The whole idea behind FWB is that there's no possibility of it leading to anything "more"...that's the attraction of it for the people who are looking for that.
Sheri
Vexer your description is right on! There are so many different degrees for the relationships! But you covered many of them!
Sunshine
Ok - so my theory is blown to smithereens... :)
Thanks Vexer - I think you've put it in the right light perfectly. I guess that's kind of what I was trying to say, but not very well - perhaps I was trying to stretch it a bit so I'd have a bigger pool to talk to...sigh.