GACK! I'm falling prey to BBD!

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Registered: 12-10-2004
GACK! I'm falling prey to BBD!
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Wed, 01-19-2005 - 4:32am

So I've got three, count 'em, three different dates lined up for first dates/meetings in the next week. Plus one more woman that I've got a second date with.

They all appear to be lovely, smart, nice women. Talked on the phone with all, and they all seem very quick witted (I'm in trouble) and gave good phone. :)

And yet I still find myself going to the OLD sites and browsing. I'm addicted! Somebody stop me!

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Registered: 06-16-2003
Wed, 01-19-2005 - 8:37am

Step awaaaayyy from the screen .....

And ask yourself, if you found The Perfect Woman For You online, when would you have time to go out with her? Would you blow off the other dates? we think not, because, after all, you are NGOL. So, breathe, take a break, and know TPWFY is as we speak being ghosted on and she'll be back in time for you to find her.

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Registered: 07-24-2004
Wed, 01-19-2005 - 8:58am

It's interesting... this is exactly why I let my subscription expire at the end of last year. In a year, I'd gone out with 23 men, many several times and one for more than three months, and in almost every case they continued to want to "surf" even while confessing that I was great and perfect in lots of ways. With the exception of two or three, all of them also wanted to continue to date ME while dating others.

Don't get me wrong; I understand the whole JNTIY thing and that's cool, but I definitely got the feeling that online dating affords ALL of us the opportunity to keep shopping, even if we might have found what we're looking for.

It's like one of the men told me, with online dating, there is always a "fresh crop" of women showing up! The next one might be MORE perfect!

Granted, I might just be worn out from the whole thing and thus my perspective, but there MIGHT be something to it as well!

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Registered: 08-19-2004
Wed, 01-19-2005 - 9:26am
This is THE biggest problem with OLD and why I find it so depressing sometimes. There's a book on OLD called "I Can't Believe I'm Buying this Book" and after a hundred or so pages of extolling the wonders and greatness of OLD, the author finally addresses the BBD issue and says he knows it's a problem but has no idea what the solution is.
I know people on this board have said it's an issue with real life dating as well, but OLD really fosters the BBD attitude especially when match is sending you "matches" 2 or 3 times a week.
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Registered: 08-22-2004
Wed, 01-19-2005 - 9:38am
See? Didn't we just debate this topic a couple of weeks ago? My point exactly.
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Registered: 05-20-2004
Wed, 01-19-2005 - 9:59am
What is BBD?

 

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Wed, 01-19-2005 - 10:12am
Bigger and Better Deal
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Registered: 06-16-2003
Wed, 01-19-2005 - 10:14am

Bigger Better Deal.

It's like what Jerry Seinfeld once said. Men don't care what's on TV....they only care what ELSE is on TV. With apologies to those who don't.

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Registered: 05-20-2004
Wed, 01-19-2005 - 10:30am
I always feel that I am the BEST Deal there is. It dosen't get any better than this (grin)!!! If you want to be idiot, and pass me up....totally your loss! That is my motto.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 01-19-2005 - 10:31am

Why would we do that??? You haven't met 3 of them yet...who knows if there will be any in person connection, and you've only had 1 date with the 4th woman--WAAAY too soon to stop looking and browsing!!!

Sheri




Edited 1/19/2005 10:36 am ET ET by northwestwanderer
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Wed, 01-19-2005 - 10:35am

You might meet these three woman and not end up going on a second date with any of them. Date two with the other one might not lead to date three. IMHO it would be foolish to stop looking at this point.

 

 

 

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