Gee, Was I too Direct??? Good Riddance!
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| Wed, 09-21-2005 - 3:01pm |
Here's my story:
I was chatting with a guy I met online and then we exchanged numbers (and I gave my home #) and decided to meet. Well the day of the "meet" I was running late w/errands and I did not have his phone number with me -- left it at home. Anyway I got home late and called to apologize. He didn't seem very receptive but we continued talking. During this same conversation, I offered to give him my cell # to which he declined -- stating I have your home and that's sufficient. Whatever!! Well last night I get home after 8:45 pm and this guy leaves a message on my phone at 4:30 pm asking that we meet at the mall.
I didn't call him back and sent this email today:
Sorry I was unable to meet you yesterday at the Mall, but did not receive your message until I arrived home from work. You were reluctant in taking my work # and/or cell # and nor do I want to force the issue, but in the future if you are trying to connect or would like to meet, I don't have a problem with being spontaneous, but you would need to be a bit more flexible (and open) in taking a number from me to assure a contact. In retrospect, calling me at home at 5:00 pm (when I leave work after 5:30 pm) is moot.
Also, as stated in a previous conversation, the best time to reach me in the evening (at HOME) would be after 7:30 pm.
On another note, how is your day going?
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His response:
What??? anyway moot point or not you had my home number and failed notify me that you could not meet so allow me to put in perspective don't bother now I would prefer to discontinue further communications with you you could have called to say you could not make but you di not. Now since you're being a but about it your excuse did nor cut it with so don't bother.
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My response:
Wise decision. Good luck to you!
Edited 9/22/2005 9:12 am ET ET by tstephnic

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Don't sweat the petty stuff, pet the sweaty stuff!
Or something like that. I agree with you 100% on this deal. I'm afraid I'm going to wake up tomorrow and what's left of New Orleans will be permanently under water and there will be a big chunk of Texas missing.
Posting the definition and correct useage from the dictionary isn't rude? Talk about making someone feel inadequate.
If she was a personal friend of mine, I would have done the same thing.
"And to be even more clear, please do not correct MY English."
I'm pretty sure you are not supposed to start a sentence with the word "and".
:P
I was totally thinking the same thing! If a guy had pulled that same stunt and stood a woman up for their first meeting, most of us women here would have said the guy was a jerk! But if a woman does it to a guy she gets a free pass? that isn't right.
Then later she kind of scolds the guy for trying to set something else up. Now it wasn't her fault that he waits until the very last minute but if the situation were reversed and (I know I just said this but still) if a GUY did it to a girl, most of us would be all upset!
Sorry Tsteph but that's just how I feel. The guy was trying to go out with you after you stood him up and you sent him a note kind of scolding him and blaming HIM for not taking your cell phone number. It's not your fault that you couldn't go out or get back to him in time the second time around (he asked too late) but still that note was over the top.
To be honest I think your ego was a bit hurt when he blocked you but I think he had good cause. Chalk it up as a learning experience and next time both you and him will do better!
Thanks, I'm so glad you weren't offended :)
If your curious - I used to work for a published author and believe it or not you can start a sentence with And, she used to do it all the time--I always thought it was odd now I find myself doing it, ha
SP
PS When I'm posting I'm usually at work and sneaking them in so my vocab isn't always up to par - however I enjoy learnng words that are not used correctly as well. I guess we all won't forget moot vs. mute from here on, that's a good thing, ha.
Edited 9/22/2005 10:06 am ET ET by small_peanut2005
You are absolutely right if the tables were turned!
Lil more history about my situation:
I wasn't really pressed about meeting him and leaving his number at home worked to my advantage. Because of who I am, I thought it appropriate to apologize about not calling (also thinking he probably wouldn't want any further contact). We didn't have an actual location set up, just that we would call each other on Sunday to meet. Mind you, here I was calling at 8:45 pm (which was after the 6:00 pm timeline we discussed) but he had never called me earlier. Previously, I had talked to this guy and he came across as being very negative. Unfortunately we had set the meet and greet before actually having a conversation (he was traveling). Well I call and during that convo, he seemed reluctant, told me my story was weak, and ended the call by stating HE would make future calls if interested. Anyway, I hung up (although I personally wanted to curse him out but didn't) threw away his number, thought that was the end of it. Monday, I get to work and apparently he sent an email through the personal's account (at 6:45pm Sunday) stating "what happened, you are like all the rest, I see you are not a true woman of your word!". (WTF??) Then I get home from work on Monday and hear his message about meeting at the mall, and I was like WTF??? Mind you, HE WILL MAKE FUTURE CALLS, so I sent an email and considering his manner toward me, my email was appropriate!
My ego is truly not hurt and didn't have a problem apologizing, but trust me I'm not surprised by his response and he still is a NEGATIVE AND BITTER JERK!!! (smile) Oh yeah, add CONTROLLING -- He will make future calls! Whatever!!!
NEXT and Good Riddance!!!
I am not sure what he wanted! Maybe he just wanted to be in control. So weird.
Sara
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