Gee, Was I too Direct??? Good Riddance!

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Registered: 05-09-2005
Gee, Was I too Direct??? Good Riddance!
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Wed, 09-21-2005 - 3:01pm

Here's my story:

I was chatting with a guy I met online and then we exchanged numbers (and I gave my home #) and decided to meet. Well the day of the "meet" I was running late w/errands and I did not have his phone number with me -- left it at home. Anyway I got home late and called to apologize. He didn't seem very receptive but we continued talking. During this same conversation, I offered to give him my cell # to which he declined -- stating I have your home and that's sufficient. Whatever!! Well last night I get home after 8:45 pm and this guy leaves a message on my phone at 4:30 pm asking that we meet at the mall.

I didn't call him back and sent this email today:

Sorry I was unable to meet you yesterday at the Mall, but did not receive your message until I arrived home from work. You were reluctant in taking my work # and/or cell # and nor do I want to force the issue, but in the future if you are trying to connect or would like to meet, I don't have a problem with being spontaneous, but you would need to be a bit more flexible (and open) in taking a number from me to assure a contact. In retrospect, calling me at home at 5:00 pm (when I leave work after 5:30 pm) is moot.

Also, as stated in a previous conversation, the best time to reach me in the evening (at HOME) would be after 7:30 pm.

On another note, how is your day going?

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His response:

What??? anyway moot point or not you had my home number and failed notify me that you could not meet so allow me to put in perspective don't bother now I would prefer to discontinue further communications with you you could have called to say you could not make but you di not. Now since you're being a but about it your excuse did nor cut it with so don't bother.

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My response:

Wise decision. Good luck to you!




Edited 9/22/2005 9:12 am ET ET by tstephnic

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-16-2005
Thu, 09-22-2005 - 12:47pm
Great point!!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-19-2004
Thu, 09-22-2005 - 1:13pm
I totally agree.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2005
Thu, 09-22-2005 - 1:19pm

That should be "if you're curious".

This should be changed to "the grammer and spelling thread".

LOL


iVillage Member
Registered: 09-14-2005
Thu, 09-22-2005 - 1:28pm
Or the "grammar and spelling thread". HA!
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2005
Thu, 09-22-2005 - 1:54pm

ROFLOL

That was on purpose.

Yeah.

Really.

HA!!!


iVillage Member
Registered: 05-12-2005
Thu, 09-22-2005 - 2:52pm
You've got no history together. Put yourself in his place. The very first meeting is basically a no call no show. It's not a good basis. If a guy did that to me on our very first meeting, there is no way I would want further contact with him, even if he just got up running errands, I'd err on the side of safety.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-18-2005
Thu, 09-22-2005 - 5:25pm
That is funny – see, at work and sneaking um in, already spelling impaired (for good reason, wink)!
 
 
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-31-2005
Thu, 09-22-2005 - 7:20pm
You know, I must say I am a bit disappointed that only one person caught a misspelling in my post... LOL
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-22-2005 - 7:40pm

Too funny...we'll try to be more vigilant in the future ;-).

Sheri

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-19-2004
Thu, 09-22-2005 - 11:29pm

Apparently, you are darned if you do and darned if you don't :)

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