Germany Guy....

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Germany Guy....
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Tue, 03-15-2005 - 7:35pm

Germany Guy called!

Sparkle

 

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Wed, 03-16-2005 - 10:17am

I have lots of friends who are consultants. A few of them were on a huge project that encompassed offices in Holland, servers in Germany, and programmers in France and the US. They were flying all over the place, would get home, only to have to turn around and go back to Europe, sometimes the same day they got here, depending on the crises.

I'd never assume something was off with this guy based on ONE sentence.


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Wed, 03-16-2005 - 2:29pm

Good luck! I have to admit that I would be worried that "I gotta go to Poland" is actually secret sleaze-guy code for "I have to go back home to my wife", but until this guy gives you a good reason to not trust him I guess you have to run with your feelings. "Cautiously optimistic" is probably the best bet right now.

How many logins do you have? You're both sparklepuss22 and Sparkle2004?

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Wed, 03-16-2005 - 2:53pm

Oh, I'm not really questioning his interest in or willingness to meet you. But I am thinking that all may not be as it seems so you should be healthily skeptical (especially in light of his failure to call you when he said he would the first time around).

Hope is fine, hope is good. Ignoring potential red flags is not so good. Temper hope with "we'll see", and you'll be fine ;-).

Sheri

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Wed, 03-16-2005 - 2:58pm
Whatever you do follow your own instincts. I have assumed and been wrong in the past with dating and relationships; so let him prove himself to you AKA innocent until proven guilty or innocent, ha!
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Wed, 03-16-2005 - 8:17pm

When I met this guy he told me that he has a job as a corporate lawyer in a defense company.

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Wed, 03-16-2005 - 8:28pm

Oh, sparkle, unfortunately it's because most of us have learned the hard way that liars and cheaters are rampant. You just need to take everything he says with a grain of salt until you get to know him well enough to know if he is honest or not...and that could take months (it took me about 3 months to realize that The Liar was a liar, in part because I'd never been so deceived by anyone I'd been romantically involved with before).

Yes, it *is* depressing how many dishonest people there are out there (I went through a stretch recently where it seemed like every guy I was emailing with online lied about his age and that's unacceptable to me)...but much better to do what you can to guard yourself against it than to be a victim of it. Just have a healthy level of skepticism and you'll be fine.

Sheri

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Thu, 03-17-2005 - 12:28am

Hi Sparkle,

One thing I wanted to say is to be careful with Lawyers. I've dated a few, and yes I know that I am generalizing now about lawyers, but the ones I have met are quick with replies (and lies) and good with words... just be cautious. Maybe he is a great guy, and I really hope that he is. These guys were also very persistent when I didn't want to see them anymore, they argue their cases for a living and seem to do it in their lives also... again just my experience. I do avoid dating lawyers now... oh and cops also, but that's another story...

Good luck to you...
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Thu, 03-17-2005 - 11:27am

Thanks for that Sheri.

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Thu, 03-17-2005 - 1:59pm

I don't see a disconnect between being positive yet having a healthy amount of skepticism at the same time, so your post confused me a little....

Sheri

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Thu, 03-17-2005 - 3:25pm

Okay, I think I understand you better after reading about your experiences. Good for you for taking the time to improve your life. For that, I give you full credits.

Board opinions are just that -- opinions. The opinions are not a reflection of how you are being assessed as a person, but are an imparting of experience to be shared by everyone. In other words, nothing personal against you!

When you mentioned some key words (*called from airport on the way to somewhere else* for example) this prompted various people to post their opinions of the situation. I know that if I have concerns about certain dating situations I will certainly post them. I myself learned a lot on this board.

Hopefully any advice you read will help.

amjay