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Getting Dumped
| Mon, 12-04-2006 - 8:49pm |
Why is it that when dating someone, we both feel a connection, he says he really likes you, enjoys our company, can't wait to see you again, etc... etc... after about a week or two, we never hear from them again!? They don't have the B---- to let us know! What's up with that? I can tell someone when I move on,... and I don't mislead anyone... why can't guys do it?

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The thing that I have such a horrible time with is the lying or insincerity when guys ACT like they are so into you. Plain & simple, they don't need to go overboard & make a lot of promises they know they can't keep or say things they wish they hadn't said. I continue to believe that men are worse about leading women on than the other way around. While I know there are some stories about "user women", you don't hear those like you do about the men.
When a guy goes the extra mile and invests a lot of time and effort with someone, it just does not make sense for them to "change their mind" so quickly with no explanation. If they never suffer any consequences for such actions, they will continue to lead others on and perpetuate the idea that 90% of men are players and not serious about any of it. They think women are a dime a dozen, and the dating sites add to that delusional thought process.
I agree with mitsy. Yeah, I've ghosted in the past but NEVER after I've told a guy how great he is and led him on with talk of future plans. That definitely seems to be a guy thing. It's like saying "I'll call you" and then not doing it. Then don't say it.
I think the person who said guys live in the moment hit the nail on the head. I'd rather believe that than the alternative, that they're all just liars.
I wish more men posted on this board, as in the past. I'd love to hear the male perspective on this issue.
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