Getting older... problems with that!?
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Getting older... problems with that!?
| Thu, 08-24-2006 - 11:51am |
I've been so bummed out this week at the realization that I am a lot older now and am not getting dates like i used to. Let me first say that I feel really young (29) but the online dating world is making me feel otherwise! I first started doing online dating back in 2003 when I was still 25. I used to get emails and offers for dates regulary. It never occured to me that could end as I got OLDER. My last relationship lasted 2 years (26-28yo). I'm regretting now that I spent so much time on him after I knew he wasn't the one...gosh hindsight is 20/20, but I was so "in love". Now here I am at 29 and apparently just not as "fresh" as I was at 25. I'm getting way more "ghosters" and guys re-contacting me through some sort of recycle bin of online women than I got before.
My guess is that the older men and men our age are flooding the inboxes of the younger women. Has anyone else gone through this too or is it just me?
I feel like I am much better of a person than I was at 25...I'm smarter, happier, healthier and more.
So, what's the deal!? Perhaps we're all just getting more careful and really those guys contacting me before were the less serious ones (believable seeing how none of those relationships lasted and i am single)? I could go for that excuse...at least it makes me feel better... :)
My guess is that the older men and men our age are flooding the inboxes of the younger women. Has anyone else gone through this too or is it just me?
I feel like I am much better of a person than I was at 25...I'm smarter, happier, healthier and more.
So, what's the deal!? Perhaps we're all just getting more careful and really those guys contacting me before were the less serious ones (believable seeing how none of those relationships lasted and i am single)? I could go for that excuse...at least it makes me feel better... :)

I figured there would be older women here (who might smirk at a 4 year difference), but I am simply talking about my experience in an honest way.
I sure am praying to find a good man who is ready to settle down... I'm adjusting to a new phase and realization. It seems like more and more men are not taking O.L.D. seriously...they just want to play in the toy store and see who all they can get to talk to them having so many "options". OLD definitely gives new creedance to "there's always more fish in the sea".
I've been single for so long, it would be nice to meet a great guy and get into a lasting relationship, to have someone to come home to at night! Now that I am all settled in my career, there's definitely a feeling that lingers...screams, actually, i dont want to be alone anymore! :) oh well, i guess it'll happen when it happens...
Nope - it's not just you. I feel that way as well. I was with someone from 24-29, and I definitely felt the effect of being older in the dating pool after we split. I'm now 31, and it's not really getting any better.
Now, I don't think it's that men are necessarily looking for much younger women. I think it's because we all have more issues and more walls up as we get older because we've been in the dating/relationship world for longer. So, it's more difficult to get past all that and really connect with someone.
I also think that, with age, comes discriminating taste. When I was younger, I would pretty much date anyone who asked. Now, I want to date people who have real potential for long-term.
Don't worry - 29 is not the end of the world for dating. It's just a little bit different world.
(edited for a typo)
Edited 8/24/2006 6:29 pm ET by tallgirlcolo
AJ, enjoying life with C.
I hear what you're saying. However, if you think the pool is shallow at your end, you have to try it at mine. (I'm 51) It's barely a puddle!
And not to be condescending, but at 29 you have many "good" years ahead of you. You have the best of both worlds. There will be men who are approximatley your age who will be interested and those a few years older.
I do wish you luck and hope you find someone soon!
I agree, I was like 29 old?
thanks for your reply!