Getting tired of guessing!
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| Sat, 02-25-2006 - 12:05pm |
HI girls, I wrote ealier that he asked me on a fourth date this weekend, and we talked on Wednesday. He suggested a movie... Anyways, I have not heard from him yet, and its already mid-day on Saturday. Since we didn't leave it at that he will call me, do you think I'm expected to call him?
I'm getting so tired of this guessing/waiting game. Am I just being impatient? If he is doing this "let her wonder" thing by intention, I'd say it's probably working against him. I'm even losing the anticipation of seeing him. Now I'm just feeling irritated... What should I do? If he calls me later tonight, to schedule for tomorrow or something, or even if he wants to meet tonight, should I just brush him off? I don't want him to think that I've been waiting for him all weekend! I actaully do have other plans too, but I was going to make him my priority, but what now?

Did you agree that you would go out tonight, or was it just "this weekend"? If you agreed that you'd go out tonight, then I'd assume that the date is set and give him until late afternoon/early evening to make the specific plans (and if he doesn't, then I'd consider that to be a blow-off and that would be at least a big strike if not a dealbreaker). If it was just "this weekend", then I'd make other plans for tonight and see what happens when he calls.
Sheri
Yup, I'm waiting too but my guy said he would call me to firm up plans so I am sitting on my hands and trying to keep busy so I won't call him! But BOY do I hate the waiting!!
As for yours, that's a toughie when you don't really specify who was calling but IMO, if he did the asking, he should do the follow-up. So definitely if it was non-specific, make your plans and go with them. Hopefully he'll follow up, but don't put your life on hold for him.
vexer, don't you feel like moving in slow motion while you are waiting? As much as I MAKE myself not to be waiting, I still do! It's so silly, I know. Well, I'm gonna get out of the house and go meet with my girlfriends for a coffee now, but I know we'll be talking about him and I'll still be staring at my phone!
I know I might have my expectation too high with OL dating. He is the only one that I dated so far. I searched and found him to be my type and winked at him. Oh well, he'll probably call tomorrow, probably not, who knows. If he doesn't call, then I think I'll have my answer; but if he does, I will still be so confused! I am tempted to just put things on the table with him. Would it be ok if I asked him whether or not he is interested in me? Tell him that I am interested in getting to know him and I feel a connection, but I hope the feeling is mutual, because I do not want to waste time if he does not see us going anywhere further. Any advice?
Ugh, hard as it may be (I realize I'm jumping in very late here)..you might as well go on with planning YOUR weekend. He may have had an emergency or completely dropped the ball. Whatever the case, I wouldn't wait.
He already asked you out this weekend, but no contact since Weds? I wouldn't hold my breath. Sure, he might ask you out for Sunday. It's your call whether or not you should go. I think he should have called for a confirmation by now though.
In my experience, guys will rarely answer a question like that honestly...they don't want to be the 'bad guy' to your face, so they'll say "oh, of course I'm interested!" and then they won't call.
The answer is in his actions...they will tell you what you need to know about his interest level.
Sheri