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Ghost?
| Tue, 04-12-2005 - 9:53am |
I think I may be being ghosted. I met a man on Match -- we've been e-mailing for two weeks trying to work our schedules out. Most of our schedule problems have been mine but we had set a definite coffee meet for this Wednesday. The last e-mail I got from him was Friday evening...but I can't get online during the weekends or at night and he can't get online during the day at work, so I wouldn't have received anything until last night. His last e-mail said he'd try to give me a call over the weekend (he didn't) and I could feel free to call him if I wanted to chat. So my e-mail yesterday said I'd try to call last night and I did. I left him a very brief message to call me when he gets a chance...still nothing. Now, it's barely been 12 hours, so I may be thinking too soon, but we were supposed to get together Wednesday so I'm trying to prepare myself. Is this a ghost??? At what point do I give up and assume Wednesday night isn't gonna happen?

Unfortunately, I'd say the ball was in his court now and he has to be the "bigger person" and call you back and set it up.
If he doesn't call or email or get with you in some way, I would call him Casper...
But you need to let him come back to you with whatever he's going to say or do... if it is an honest mistake or something came up, he needs to communicate that with you.
Otherwise I would just have to write him off.
Sorry to hear problems though. Try not to let it get you down. Pop in your favorite movie and try to get your mind off of it or something if you can.
I used to get in a bad mindset and start overthinking everything if something like that happened to me... "was it me?? was it something I said?? Should I call her now??? Should I email her again???" It was always very self defeating to do that. So I learned to just try and get on with life, if she called back and explained, cool deal. But I also tried to not let that shape my feelings towards the next person I talked too.
Bryan