Ghost resurfacing! what an excuse?!

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Ghost resurfacing! what an excuse?!
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Wed, 02-15-2006 - 11:31pm

here ya go. What kind of respond should he get? I m sure you all are v. creative here so any ideas???
BTW this is the guy who asked if he can get my dinner "quarter dinner I shared with him he meant" and notice the Condo word comes up again!

<

Sorry I haven't written in a while, I didn't mean to drop off the face
of
the planet. Life got kind of crazy and then work sent me to XXXXXXXX
for two
weeks for a course. I hope your projects are coming along great, what
are
you up to these days? I just got back into the city today and so am
doing
two week of laundry and cleaning my now dusty condo, oh how fun ;-)

Have fun,

Rob >>

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Registered: 05-31-2005
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 11:43pm

Ok, what kind of response do you want to give? He's mentioning the condo but it's as though I'd mention my apartment... I don't see anything really wrong.


Do you like the guy or no? If not, then don't respond. If you do, then answer and see where it goes.


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Registered: 09-09-2003
Wed, 02-15-2006 - 11:55pm
Oh no no I dont like him at all. NADA.
I just find it v. bold to disappear for a month and then write again to see how I m doing.
I think first and last time I saw him was Jan 13! so for 4 weeks he could not answer his emails. Either he thinks I m dumb to believe him or desperate to go out with him again.
he must have been dumped after a few CONDO conversations and let s share a plate dinner:~P
I m thinking of responding with something funny and sarcastic to brush him off. But then maybe it is better to just ghost. Ughkkkk some people are painfully stupid!
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Registered: 02-09-2006
Thu, 02-16-2006 - 5:18am

"...so for 4 weeks he could not answer his emails."

Did you write him after that date?

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Registered: 05-31-2005
Thu, 02-16-2006 - 8:00am
Ooooooooooooh. Ok. Didn't realize he ghosted since January! Ok, personally I would not reply. It does nothing for you except put you on his level and you're better than that. Take the high road. :o)

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Thu, 02-16-2006 - 9:05am

The easiest thing to do is to take the moral high road and not respond....but chamey isn't so nice.

Dear ___________:

I've been busy too, but that is not why I haven't communicated with you. Although you are an interesting person,___________, I sense this home remodeling project is very important to you and I don't want to keep you from it. Also, I felt bad about you spending money in a restaurant, clearly you seemed uncomfortable with having to pay for a meal.

I wish you a great deal of luck in life.

juliara

How's that?

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Registered: 02-09-2006
Thu, 02-16-2006 - 10:05am
I still don't think the guy was all that bad. Clearly, she wrote him after this supposed disastrous date so it wasn't like she was completely turned off. I agree with Bklynchk. If she likes him, write him. If not, don't.
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Registered: 12-22-2005
Thu, 02-16-2006 - 10:21am

Just ignore him.

I don't get what the big deal is about his condo. What else is he supposed to call it?

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Thu, 02-16-2006 - 12:12pm
What a moron. Honestly? I'd say don't bother with a reply, just block his email so you don't have to see the next dumb message. He's obviously lacking in social skills but you already knew that! Next.
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Registered: 02-16-2006
Thu, 02-16-2006 - 9:33pm
I think I know this guy. He gave me the same line about being away at traing last April. Gee do ya think he forgot his login?
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Registered: 09-09-2003
Thu, 02-16-2006 - 10:09pm

I come late from school so I m always behind in the ongoing discussions.

I did reply to his "had a lot of fun yesterday" email and wanted to invite him for brunch just to pay back for my dinner kuz I felt bad for letting him pay on our first date but did not intend to see on a third date.
so ghosting was better actually! saved me time and money.
I m not in the mood of writing back so I will just ignore and if he calls me I will say Robert Who? I m not sure you have the right number Mr. :~P

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