give a guy your opinion

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Registered: 03-31-2005
give a guy your opinion
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Tue, 06-14-2005 - 4:15pm

Ladies here is your opportunity to tell a guy what you think and know that he is listening.


iVillage Member
Registered: 07-03-2004
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 10:13am

Good morning, Mark! Welcome to the OLD board. Always great to have another male perspective here.

I have viewed your profile and think you're adorable. Editing advice to follow. I don't know if I can help you though. There are a few fellows on this board that have me shaking my head at the dumb females in their area. I have been on Match for over a year now, browsing at least once a week, and I really can't understand why our friends here haven't been snapped up already!!! LG says it's a numbers game and he must be right. You need a lot of patience.

Your profile ( from a woman's perspective )

- take all reference to sex O.U.T. We know already.
- I liked reading about the good relationship you have with your ex. Says goods things about you. And I want to thank you for not using the word "baggage" -- so overdone!
- I agree with NWW -- a bit touchy-feely about love/relationships. It's pretty much a given that you are OLD to meet and match with someone. No need to waste space restating that. As someone who is looking for a match myself, I want to read about how I would match with you: maybe give a bit more details about your off-work interests, maybe a guilty pleasure or two? (Mine is watching CSI - I'm addicted!)
- I liked reading about your volunteer work.
- The age range has been the subject of many threads here!! Women over 25 don't like reading that men in their 30s or 40s would want a 21 year old. Don't blame us, we were born like that!!
- As I said, you are very good looking. But all your pictures are alike. Can you get one with a natural pose, casual clothes? Don't post one with your young one; there are a lot of weirdos online.

Hang in there, keep your chin up, and post often!

amjay

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Registered: 06-01-2005
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 10:14am

Hello Mark,


Welcome to the board.

CL-Truewild1969

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-09-2005
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 4:42pm

Red flags (IMHO) regarding your profile are as follows:

1) Newly divorced.

2) 3 year-old Child.

3) "What you are seeking" is very vague. I would suggest being more specific about what you want and would like your partner to have other than "ANY"!

4) what's up with all the "poetry" crap! She brings curiosity, blah, blah, blah. Seems like you "cut and paste" that information from somewhere.

5) Turn-ons: Tatoos, body piercing -- being a freak is okay but why advertise it!

6) Turn-offs: No Answer. So you accept anything??

7) Overall profile: looks like you are seeking "SEX" only!

Hope this helps!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-19-2004
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 4:47pm
I find it highly offensive that you consider someone who has piercings or tattoos a freak.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2005
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 4:50pm

Why is having a 3 year old child a red flag? (it may be a turn off for you, if you don't want to date someone with kids, but a red flag???)

Since when does having piercings and/or tatts make someone a freak?


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Registered: 05-09-2005
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 4:58pm

Sniffle Sally,

Please note that when I mention "freak" I'm talking about a person who is totally uninhibited sexually. Not a crazy person!! My reasoning for saying that is because he states being a "metrosexual" but under his turn-ons, he likes tatoos, piercing, etc. My comment is strictly based on how he has his profile outlined; and although most of the posters felt he had a good profile, it just seemed as if he was looking for a "freak" instead of a relationship.

Sorry, if you felt offended, not my intent. Remember, JMHO.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-19-2004
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 5:06pm
Even metrosexuals can be turned on by tattoos, piercings or things that they wouldn't necessarily do themselves and maybe he has some hidden tattoos. Different things turn people on, it doesn't mean only freaks have tattoos and piercings....
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-09-2005
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 5:14pm

This is not about ME, just my opinion.

I don't mind dating men with children. It's this particular scenario that is a RED FLAG (which includes the 3 year old child). Seems like he is recently divorced (about a year) and the child is turning 3. Sorry not enough time in my opinion to be seeking another relationship and not enough time to recover from a divorce (if he actually is divorced). His overall profile is vague (doesn't really talk about himself) so I question his truthfulness.

Freak is a GOOD thing based upon my definition! (smile)

IMHO, this profile will work well for someone who is seeking someone for casual dating with benefits (meaning sex)!

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-09-2005
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 5:26pm

So true.......

My mentioning of him wanting a "freak" is NOT totally based on the fact that he likes tatoos, and body piercing, and skinny dipping, etc. It's the vibe (I get) from the overall profile.

Will be more thorough in future posts....so I don't get all this backlash! (smile) I can see how people could take offense since I didn't clarify it from my first post.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-17-2002
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 5:27pm

OK, while I agree this is your opinion: 1) many guys like piercings and tattoos on women. 2) because someone has a piercing or tattoo doesn't even make them sexually wild, promiscuous or otherwise even slightly freaky in any way. I have a belly button ring and I am not sexually wild, looking for only a sexual relationship or in any way freaky. I liked it, it was my minor form of rebellion before turning 30 and I have pretty good abs so I got one. And I am about as normal as you can get.

Also, your red flag comment still is not quite valid. The recently divorced is a "red flag" by definition to many. Having a child is NOT a red flag but rather a personal preference. Red flags are those things that would indicate this person is in some way in GENERAL a bad person to date - i.e., drugs, married, been in prison, mentions other women on the date, says he is looking for sex... having a child is not a red flag.

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