Giving benefit of the doubt leads to...
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| Sat, 11-11-2006 - 10:25pm |
Saturday night alone!!! Oh lordy. That's what I get for giving someone another chance.
So, I've gone out with this guy J seven times over about six weeks, right? As I've posted before, I'm just not getting the sense that he's all that interested, even though he calls almost every day and *says* he's very interested. Part of that is that he's not making a big effort to spend time with me...his words and actions are just not matching up (except for the phone calls).
Long story short, he basically stood me up Thursday night (which would have been our first date in almost 2 weeks) but he was very apologetic and convinced me to give him another chance--I wasn't sure, but we talked last night and he says he wants to make it up to me by taking me out to dinner tonight. I tell him I'm having concerns because I don't feel like he really has time to focus on trying to build a relationship, he says, no, he does and he's really interested in me, he thinks I'm amazing, blah, blah, blah. So I say ok.
So I get a call a little while ago...I figure he's calling to tell me where to meet him, but no, he's calling to CANCEL because he's too tired from a busy day (to be fair, he did have some work meetings today--but only for half a day, not the whole day). I couldn't believe it!!!
Of course, it's too late to call anyone else, so that's 2 nights this week that were spoiled by this bozo. My bad for giving him another chance though, when I knew better. I knew in my heart that reliable people don't flake like he did on Thursday but I ignored my instinct and gave him another shot anyway.
I have to laugh or else, I swear, I'd cry.
At least I have fun plans to go see Average White Band tomorrow night with another guy (4th date). Dear lord, let him PLEASE not cancel on me, too, I think I'd lose it, LOL!!!
Sheri

Oh, he actually wanted to reschedule for tomorrow. Yeah, sure, that's gonna happen, ha.
He had his chance...I don't mind giving 2nd chances, but 3rds? Not so much.
But yes, I'm getting out there, which is something. I'm looking forward to tomorrow night, although I have a feeling that guy is not really interested in a LTR (I'll need to feel him out more tomorrow night). I am also emailing someone who sounds promising and we're supposed to try to meet this week.
Sheri
Oh no! That stinks that he canceled the night of the date. He feels pretty comfortable with you it seems. That kind of distance from a guy, 2 weeks since the last date, and then canceling the next couple would make me question what's going on despite the phone calls.
Keep us posted. Sorry you were home when you'd rather be out. I hope you ended up having a nice night at home...
Thanks, and yes, I've met all these guys through CL. If nothing pans out with this guy tonight or with the guy I'm emailing, I may put another ad up there...or maybe take another break until after the holidays, I haven't decided yet.
But for tonight I am just looking forward to grooving to some 70s funk with a nice looking guy who's a good kisser, LOL!
Sheri
Yep, I think that's basically what it boils down to...maybe he's been single too long or something, who knows. He actually called me today--I was on the way to the ballet unexpectedly this afternoon (a friend had an extra ticket at the last minute) so I didn't pick up and haven't called him back yet--I was having too fun a day and didn't want to have a downer conversation (I'll call him tomorrow). After the ballet, I met up with my fling who moved to Santa Cruz back at the beginning of the year for coffee (we are just platonic friends now--and FWIW, he was like, you should have kicked this guy to the curb after he stood you up the other night). Then tonight I went to see Average White Band with the good kisser guy--it was a blast! And he insisted on paying even though I invited him and it was both dinner and cover charges for the show. Now that's a gentleman ;-). I'm super attracted to him though--so that must mean he's emotionally unavailable, LOL. Eh, time will tell I guess ;-).
Sheri