Giving a guy a compliment
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Giving a guy a compliment
| Mon, 04-18-2005 - 7:48pm |
some of you might remember "therapy guy" from about a month ago. We went out for coffee a couple of times and he'd talk to me about his ex-girlfriend that broke up with him in Nov. that he dated for 18 months right after getting divorced. Anyway, we still email about once a week and he's told me he "considers me a friend and in his book that means alot". (Kinda like saying 'gee beav, you sure are swell!')
Okay my question is this...I saw him tonight at the YMCA (haven't seen him in a month) he came over to the bike I was riding and we chatted, and he looked GREAT! and I mean GREAT! Black nylon shorts with a gray tank shirt. Nice biceps that looked like he got alittle sun this weekend. I want to send him an email saying it was nice to see him and that it looks like "working out" is really "working for him"! LOL (wink wink) But I don't want to come across as too flirtateous. Should I tell him he looked handsome? I know we all like to get a compliment every now and then but I don't want to over do it. Would you send an email and if so how would you word it?
Thanks guys.
Okay my question is this...I saw him tonight at the YMCA (haven't seen him in a month) he came over to the bike I was riding and we chatted, and he looked GREAT! and I mean GREAT! Black nylon shorts with a gray tank shirt. Nice biceps that looked like he got alittle sun this weekend. I want to send him an email saying it was nice to see him and that it looks like "working out" is really "working for him"! LOL (wink wink) But I don't want to come across as too flirtateous. Should I tell him he looked handsome? I know we all like to get a compliment every now and then but I don't want to over do it. Would you send an email and if so how would you word it?
Thanks guys.

I know you have good intentions, but I wouldn't contact him at all.
It's kind of sending mixed signals...hey I noticed you're lookin hot, but no, I still don't want to go out with you...KWIM?
I think the moment for saying something passed...it would have been fine to say, "hey, you're looking great" in person, but it would be weird to say it in email, IMO.
Why not wait until you run into him at the gym again to compliment him?
Sheri
On paper, he's pretty much exactly what I'm looking for without the baggage! It's too bad.
Jeepers, nobody has raised HJNTIY in months -- so I will and believe it is probably pretty close to true in this situation. Guys who are into you don't make excuses. The book has a funny (and cruder) way of putting it. But in essence any BS excuse is just code for not interested. Plus he used the "friend" card too...
Run - unless you enjoy spending lots of time wondering and wondering and wondering.
He replied with "thank you, that was sweet. I've nevered considered myself handsome, holey-moley. Have a great week and keep in touch for sure." So, I stroked his ego alittle. Maybe it'll help him get past his ex and move on...to me!!! LOL LOL just kidding. I know, I know... HJNTIY
No, it would be too weird to send an email at this point. It's too far past the appropriate time. The proper time would have been at that moment to make an off-handed comment - "Wow you look great!" - but to send an email later, that shows you've been thinking about it.
I would leave this guy alone. I know you like him and everything, but when a guy says he "thinks a lot about you and you're a great friend" - pff - might as well not even bother. He's saying he's not interested in anything else than being pals.