Giving number without him asking for it?
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Giving number without him asking for it?
| Sat, 04-29-2006 - 5:23pm |
I made a profile on lavalife just to give it a try and the first day, this adorable guy winked at me. I winked back and we exchanged emails with him responding to me within a few hours every time which I thought was good. I wasn't in a rush to meet him so I bided my time. In his 4th email to me, he asked me what kind of food I like and what dishes so I thought that he was going to ask me for my number for sure. I answered and asked him a couple of questions as well but when he wrote back, no mention of getting my number or going out to eat those things I mention so I thought he maybe thought I didn't want to give him my number yet. So I write back with a warm email and toward the end, I state that I don't like to email too much back and forth and like to hear the other person's voice eventually, and that he should call me if he'd like to continue where we left off. So I gave him my number. He hasn't called yet and I'm so hoping he will because I feel like we have so much in common and I like the way he expresses himself. Plus he lives in the same neighborhood as me. Do you think I should have refrained from giving him my number without his asking? I thought, it's the 5th email and he's telling me about his aspirations for the future in an email which is so out of place and it's reached a point where things have to be taken to the phone. A lot of women who play by the rules would say that I should not have done that. What do you think?

No, I think you did exactly the right thing in offering your number.
Besides, if he's going to freak out on you because you gave him your phone number first, is that really someone you WANT to date?
Did you give him a good time or two to call, also? How long has it been since you sent that email?
Sheri
Do you know for sure he's not emailing you from work? That may be why he didn't respond.
And no, he wouldn't necessarily call this weekend if he were going to.
I would put it out of your head for the time being and have a good weekend. If he calls, great; if not, oh well!
Sheri
I think how you did it was FINE. "By the rules .." there ARE no rules! lol
& i agree, it being a weekend, maybe he just is busy. I too am in the "waiting" mode - dont ya HATE that? lol
Oooh - Hmmm ...
Well, i am GLAD he called
Yeah, I hate being the aggressor too but I tend to ask a guy if he wants to do something if he doesn't by the end of the phone call. Sometimes it works for me and sometimes it doesn't. I just don't like spending hours on the phone before meeting and would rather cut to the chase. So yeah, that's a good idea to send an email and I'll do that instead of calling. The thing is he came across as really assertive and confident over the phone so I don't see how his mojo could not rise to the occasion in order to ask me out. Although he seemed to kind of stutter when I told him I had to go so maybe his mojo wasn't rising? I don't know but whatever the case, men never cease to surprise me!
Good luck with your guy and keep us posted!