Giving Up on OLD

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-14-2003
Giving Up on OLD
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Sat, 07-02-2005 - 2:45pm

I can't handle it anymore. I've met so many people. They fall into the following categories:

1. Looking for nookie under the guise of looking for a LTR
2. Say they are looking for LTD but never want to get past the darned IM programs
3. Clingers

I'm so disappointed and disheartened right now. I just found out that one of my contacts is nothing but a complete PIG. Since I also speak to other women on this site I belong to, it coincidentally came up that this guy has been messaging other women for CAM SEX. I suppose I should've been honoured that he and I have met before, he expressed an interest in getting more serious but laid off the sexual innuendo, but I am not.

I really do believe that people hide behind their computer screens and create this fantasy life and fantasy personality. Like it's some avenue to score with easy, desperate chicks...which many of us are clearly not (as is evident on this board, for instance).

Still, it hurts. It's not real. :(




Edited 7/2/2005 2:50 pm ET ET by dbl007
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Registered: 08-22-2003
In reply to: dbl007
Sat, 07-02-2005 - 5:05pm

i understand. really i do. i saw the online dating arena the same way. took a long break. and my profile is up right now but only bc my subscription ends in sept. so i'll see. but not actively dating off of it.

honestly, OLD may not be for you - and its really OK. There will be another way to meet someone. Just give yourself some time.

The fantasy in online dating is hard to get over. It is such a different way of meeting someone and its too easy to hide behind the computer. Good luck and hang in there.