glam shots

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Registered: 08-12-2006
glam shots
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Fri, 12-29-2006 - 6:12pm

Happy Holidays, everybody.

I'm in a sticky situation here...well, it depends on how you see it, I guess.

There's this guy who I've sort of been corresponding with for a while. I say "sort of" because we don't really write each other long emails. We just seemed to email "hellos" and "how are you doing" to each other.

Well, this morning, he sent me his photo and I gotta say that he's really attractive. Thing is, it's what I consider a "glam shot" of himself. It was a b&w photo and you could tell he is "posing" for the camera. I don't know if there were any touch ups done to the photo, but probably...if not, there had to be *some* kind of enhancement done to the photo. It just looks professionally done, you know?

Still, even if it wasn't done professionally, he'd still be handsome. Now, he wants a photo of me...and that's just it...there's me.

I don't have professional photos of myself. I just have doofy photos of myself. If I had the money to get myself done up and all, I would. But, besides that...

I'm sorry, I just think that if a guy *poses* for a photo, he must either be vain or shallow. I've been trying to ask him what he's looking for in a woman, but he seems to dodge the question.

So, what do you all think about this? Should I give up hope on this guy or what?

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Registered: 03-27-2004
In reply to: cunygrad2007
Sat, 12-30-2006 - 4:00pm

CUNY, what does he do for a living? A lot of people get professional photos done if they are in the entertainment industry, or if they work for a company that wants to have them on file. Does he do a bit of PR for his company? I do, so I have a "mug" shot for them.

I wouldn't worry too much. Send him your doofy photos and see what happens. He might be really vain, or he might have once gone to acting school or something.

Keep us posted!

Chick

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Registered: 11-05-2003
In reply to: cunygrad2007
Sat, 12-30-2006 - 4:33pm
A lot of real estate agents get professional pictures taken. As a new pro photographer, my first few modeling clients were first-timers who just wanted to see/feel what a real shoot was like.
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Registered: 08-16-2005
In reply to: cunygrad2007
Sat, 12-30-2006 - 5:52pm

I can't imagine dumping a guy before even meeting him because he has professional pictures.

There could be a number of reasons. My friend has professional grade pictures of her child not because she paid for them but because of a friend of hers needed a subject for photography class etc. There could be a number of reasons why he has professional pictures or maybe he just really wanted a nice shot for online dating I don't think it makes him vain.

I think if he scoffs at your normal pictures, spends 3 hours getting ready in the morning, won't go out if he has a pimple, can't pass a mirror without looking in it, and constantly talks about how gorgeous he is...that would constitute him being vain.

Smile,

Deirdre

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Registered: 08-12-2006
In reply to: cunygrad2007
Sat, 12-30-2006 - 6:00pm

ichickpee,

He works in advertising.

I probably pulled a stupid move yesterday - I wrote to him that I probably am not his "type" of gal and almost broke it off with him. He replied asking where did I get an idea that he had high expectations?

We "chatted" real quick yesterday and he told me if I was comfortable with how I was, then he was as well. Awwww....isn't he sweet? Okay, I'll get over myself now...

I don't know if I can handle a guy like him. I mean, what's going through my head is a voice saying, "pretty boy, pretty boy".

I'll keep you posted on how this goes.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
In reply to: cunygrad2007
Sat, 12-30-2006 - 6:33pm
Well, also, why not wait to make judgements on whether he's a "pretty boy" until you meet him? I had a guy that sent me a picture and we were communicating from Craigslist. I started calling him "Hot Guy" because in his pictures, he was very attractive, built and well, hot. I met him and he looked nothing like his picture at all. Not unattractive, but not built and NOT hot. So if you enjoy talking to him and he seems interested in you, why not meet him? He might wind up just being a regular Joe that is attractive but not a pretty boy and very down to earth. Give it a shot.

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Registered: 04-09-2008
In reply to: cunygrad2007
Sun, 12-31-2006 - 10:52am

Hi Stacey,


At first it seemed kind of shallow and vain to me, too. It makes sense though, that there are a number of reasons one could have 'glam shots' of themself (ask him what occasion his pics are from). I definitely think you should get past it and get to know him fully before deciding to pass on him!

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Registered: 09-06-2006
In reply to: cunygrad2007
Sun, 12-31-2006 - 4:13pm
Send him your photo and see what happens. If you read that much into a photo I can not imagine how you are in a real relationship with a real person
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Registered: 06-26-2003
In reply to: cunygrad2007
Sun, 12-31-2006 - 6:10pm
He may not look anything like his photo IRL. Many people don't (especially if the photo was done by a pro). You'rre reading too much into this.
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Registered: 08-12-2006
In reply to: cunygrad2007
Sun, 12-31-2006 - 9:26pm

Ok, ladies...you've convinced me. I will send him a photo of myself to him.

I realize it's the only fair thing to do, since he sent me one of himself.

Thing is now, I don't know if he's vaporizing on me or what. Haven't heard from him for about almost 2 days now.

I'm still hearing the words "pretty boy" in my head though...

Will keep you posted!

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Registered: 10-17-2002
In reply to: cunygrad2007
Mon, 01-01-2007 - 1:10pm
He may be waiting on the picture - I often won't respond to a person until they send a picture - I don't like not knowing who I'm talking too. Also, it's New Years. he could just be busy.

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