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| Mon, 01-02-2006 - 7:38pm |
hi all,
Happy new year to you all.
this is my third post. I am not sure if you'd remember my previous posts.
Things have been going forward with M who I met OLD. The other day on New year's eve when we finally became phsically intimate ( by the way we didn't have sex ), he told me he resigned from the site even if it billed for him to renew the membership. I had to clarify that comment by asking him to articulate it. For me resigning is taking the profile down but he said he's not subscribing any more (meaning he can't communicate with other members any more but he can still log on and look aroujnd) since he's dating me. BTW, we haven't done the exclusive talk yet.
So here I am wondering what's going go happen next. The last thing I want is, killing myself thinking over and over this matter.
M and I share wide common ground such as education, outlook on life, openness etc. I am not sure if he's into having a relationship or FWB.
However, there's this guy R who I've been emailing back and forth for about 2 months by now. Although he left me his personal email address and phone number and I sent him my cell number, we haven't spoke to each other on the phone yet.
I am posting this to get some moral support. I have come a long way to stay cool and calm in my life. I don't want the boy friend issue affect my other part of my life. I think I am doing ok but your feedbacks will help me a lot.
Thank you,
J

Are issues like exclusivity and what kind of relationship you want not really important to you? I ask because if they ARE important, it doesn't make sense to me not to bring them up.
To me, his "resigning" would be a big "so what". He's still advertising himself as available and looking. I don't think anything short of hiding his profile is really meaningful.
As for R, why are you continuing to email him if there's no progression towards meeting? Isn't that the point of OLD, to *meet* people?
Sheri
thank you for your reply Sheri.
With M, things are going pretty well I think. I think it might be a little early to bring up the talk about exclusiveness yet ( and isn't it a bit early?). We've been dating about a month so far and things have been pretty good however, like I said, when he said he 'resigned' from OLD site and yet his profile's still there to look around, which was a big reg flag to me. So I am proceeding this with very much of a caution.
With R, I have been replying to his emails for about 2 months. Since early Dec. he brought up meeting up in person but he can't make it happen for several reasons. For one, he's a MD so I can understand how crazy his schedule could be. So I have decided not to contact him back till he calls me on my cell. He's giving me mixed signals definately. In his emails, it seems that he really wants to see me but he wouldn't call. Yet he emailed me to say "happy new year" which isn't necessary if he wasn't interested.
I guess I just want to let things out from my chest and get some advice from all of you.
J