Going Through the Motions
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| Mon, 09-19-2005 - 9:19am |
Okay, I've decided that I'm taking a dating break cause "I've just been going through the motions". We talk about returning phone calls and/or calling if you are going to be late or reschedule. Well this weekend I ghosted on a guy I was suppose to meet. Although I lost interest (after talking with him on the phone -- really negative) but it bothered me that I didn't call to cancel our date. Totally out of character for me, so I called and apologize this morning and reschedule, to which he was not very receptive.
Regardless of the answers (i.e., possibly dating others, is married, or HJNIY) my question is:
Do you think Guys also "go through the motions" -- meaning they get tired of the dating scene, and although they may chat or talk with you on the phone, when it comes down to actually meeting, they ghost on you only because they are really not interested in dating or pursuing anything?

Do you think Guys also "go through the motions" -- meaning they get tired of the dating scene, and although they may chat or talk with you on the phone, when it comes down to actually meeting, they ghost on you only because they are really not interested in dating or pursuing anything?
Yes, it's easy to put off what you don't know. I've done it in the past; just overwhelmed or not into it. We all go thru cycyles.
SP
So true about going through cycles. Obviously deep down I want a healthy relationship.
Of course, I'm at work and since my workload is light, I find myself browsing the personals and sending winks or Ice Breakers. Then they write back, I chat, and then they want to meet, so I ghost!! I need my head examined!! LOL Regardless most of the recent men haven't even truly sparked an interest in me, to even want to meet or even roll over and answer the call for a 2nd time!!!
Probably need a change of scenery -- basically from OLD, but then I'm like well heck I'm not trying to run out to the club/bar scene on the weekends!
Oh what's a gal to do??
Nothing wrong with being selective on whom you pass your cell number onto and if that call goes well meeting them out. Only wink if you feel you want to truly meet them otherwise there is no point. If your bored then just do more searches but only write or wink if you truly want to meet them. If your really not into it then take a break, smiles. There are times no one is really peaking my interest and I’ve done what your doing only to later change my mind that is why when guys do it to us I understand. Now I have a couple of interesting prospects, one I’m meeting out a second time and another I will meet later on in the week or over the weekend. Two weeks before there was really nothing. WAVES baby, goes in WAVES, ha! I have others that I’m half into just like you so they sit in my “in box” for a rainy day! Hey, I even had this OBGYN write me and for some reason the thought of my future boyfriend looking at women’s you know what’s all day long would be kind of weird. It’s one thing to say, how was work today at the office but another to say, out of the 50 women you saw any of them have any funky infections, ewww.....ok, being silly now but you get what I’m saying, if something doesn’t sit well then pass on meeting them, ha!
SP