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| Tue, 11-14-2006 - 9:41am |
I have done so well. No initiating contact, no phone call and no text messages. Even over the weekend I thought about him a few times but had no desire to contact him in any way. He knows though and that scares me a bit because he is really battling to save his job and I don't want him to have to be inconvenienced by my distance. Okay so you are all thinking oh well it's his problem but he's my friend and I want him to succeed. He visited my desk on Friday and was hilariously funny and we laughed about his new desire to cook and his favorite X-box game. He again came over to my area yesterday and was witty and funny with his ex-co-workers. (He use to work in my area long before I came there). He hadn't visited them in a long while and it was nice to see him laugh again with his "homies"..I think I spelled it right...that's what he calls them. He flirted with me along the way too. I use the word flirt because he said little to me but made that strong eye contact that we hadn't done in a while.
I think I am most confused on how to handle him post contact. Can someone please shed some light on how unfair it will be for me to ignore him?? I am cordial to him when I see him and make no indication that I want to be left alone. If he wasn't having so much troubles at work I would talk to him in regards to all of this. I just don't think he needs the burden right now. He is going to try to pull me back in naturally and I can see the trend starting. And I know eventually we will just be co-workers again (If he keeps on pushing himself like he is now!!) and it will be fine. But in the meantime this is very difficult but I know it's the right thing for me to do.
Any thoughts and advice would be greatly appreciated. I promise all of you I will NEVER involve my heart with another person I work with again!!!!!!!!!
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Hiya Fluffy...
Help me out here, is this the same guy who was rude/mean to you a few days/weeks back?
Sorry... But I don't see anything in Julia's post that was hostile or aggressive - I think she's right on the money and you just didn't like being called on it.
Just calling it as I see it.
Coolas
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