Is this a good email to send ghosts?
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Is this a good email to send ghosts?
| Sun, 02-27-2005 - 1:42pm |
For those special folks known as ghosts - who head for the hills after one or more emails -- I wonder if this is a good email to send them. Anyone have any suggestions on additional wording?
Ghost (replace with real name if known, otherwise use online dating name)
Since I have not heard from you on this I will be forced to dismantle
the shrine in my closet which I have spent the weekend building from
your pictures.
-Ghostee (can replace with your name or online dating name)

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I love it! And I don't even care if it means anything to the Ghost, I would feel better sending it.
Also, I suggest you never use their "real" name again. Why give it a real life ID?
I just used it and it prompted a response - though under no circumstances should ghosts be re-engaged -- which only gives them a second chance to reject you...
I kinda like it as it gives a final see ya that's a bit humorous.
Not to be a wet blanket here, LG... but from another guy's angle... I wouldn't recommend doing that. A gal who 'dumps' me may have a friend who thinks her friend and I might be compatible and recommend me to her.
Women network; you never know if your written words get passed on from one gal to the next. I realize that you post here for sharing your knowledge, learning some yourself and an occasional laugh... but I am strongly against sending Online Dating women negative messages.
To carry on my tradition of pessimism, I'd be shocked to the point of requiring defibrillation if a ghost passed my name along to her friend. Ghosts go away because they -- well I don't know why they go away -- but they don't tend to stay in touch, send Holiday or Birthday cards or recommend their friends to date you. At least not in my experience.
How likely is this?...
"Hey Martha, there is this ugly/boring/obnoxious (pick one) guy that I just stopped writing to online because I got a better guy/reconciled with my ex/made up my mind to become a Nun -- but I think he'd be perfect for you..."
I COMPLETELY AGREE! DO IT! In fact, I am so freakin tempted to use it right now myself. And I think whether the ghost is a girl or a guy makes absolutely no difference, FWIW. I AM SO FREKIN SICK OF PEOPLE GHOSTING ON ME DAMMMMMIT!
Can you think of any others to use? I almost feel like sending an email to reject the ghost!!! Sort of like,
Hey there, I'm sorry to inform you but I met someone who meets all my desires much more so than you do. I don't know where it will go, and I am still open to dating others, but not you because now I know there's better (j/k on the last part - obviously too vulgar) Best of luck in your dating journey.
What do you think?
"shocked to the point of requiring defibrillation"
ROTFLMAO
No - I got the idea from a property management client I used to have. They'd have tennants they couldn't get to move out. When they finally evicted them they often found kooky stuff in the unit. One person had a shrine inside the closet. I forget what it was but I thought the concept humorous.
I think the SHORTER the goodbye the better. If you get into any lengthy "good riddance" it gives them something to justify leaving/ghosting. I'd never send a serious goodbye - so this is the best I could come up with.
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