Good looks

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Good looks
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Tue, 02-21-2006 - 11:06pm

looking back at my dating life 6 years ago, I can tell there has been a lot of changes in my dating habits. I used to date interesting guys that are not necessarily v. good looking. I ve been single for a year and I cant get myself to be attracted to an average looking guy.

The past 3 relationships I had were with v. good looking guys. I mean top model standards!
I m looking for someone 33-37 and not many of them are good looking and single!!

Sometimes I think I should just force myself to date one average looking guy so that I break my habits. I m sick of being single and busy with tons of things to avoid feeling lonely but I also cant seem to find an attractive guy who is not a looser in the age group I m targeting!

How important are looks to you and how are you able to deprioritize them for the sake of a better personality?

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Registered: 05-19-2005
In reply to: juliara2003
Tue, 02-21-2006 - 11:19pm

Gosh, you know, I just couldn't date someone who I didn't find attractive. But he would absolutely need the intelligence and wit to back it up.

I've tried dating men who I didn't consider to my type from a physical standpoint- and in every case, it's never worked out. Physical attraction is a huge part of the "chemistry package". Sure there are some really great guys out there with winning personalities, but for me, it truly needs to come together somehow.

(And I shall never relent on my back hair stance. LOL)

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Registered: 04-19-2004
In reply to: juliara2003
Wed, 02-22-2006 - 6:30am
Looks are not that important to me, they never have been, I've always been attracted to men that can make me laugh, have been like that since high school, I mean don't get me wrong I do have my attraction to hot men too, but it's the really funny guys that I end up falling for and not their hot friends, if they are hot and funny all the better.
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Registered: 08-19-2004
In reply to: juliara2003
Wed, 02-22-2006 - 9:13am

Interesting topic. I had a date awhile ago with a guy who was so good looking (and tall) that I wondered what the hell he was doing on match. The date was so-so; trying to make small talk with this guy was like pulling teeth. Two weeks go by and I don't hear from him, then he emails me, asking if I'd like to go out again. I say sure, and I never hear from him again.

I have no doubt he's searching for the BBD and he's so attractive I'm sure there's no shortage of candidates. But I have to ask myself whether I would've even considered going out with him again if he weren't so good-looking. His personality was nothing special and I hate thinking I'm so shallow. Though I do give myself credit for not pursuing this any further.

After taking a break, I'm back doing OLD and I'm trying to look past appearances. But it's so easy to write someone off based on a picture, especially if there's one other thing in their profile that you're not crazy about. I know when I've met guys IRL, I might not have been physically attracted at first, but their personality ends up making me fall for them big time. I have to remember that.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: juliara2003
Wed, 02-22-2006 - 10:39am

first offtopic..... "looking for someone 33-37"... have you considered opening your range a bit? Seems like a very small 'window'. Anyway, on to the question.


I see VERY few profile pics that make me go WOW! and the ones that do, usually sound either arrogant, shallow, and/or boring. I guess it just depends on where you draw the line of 'good looking'

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Registered: 04-19-2004
In reply to: juliara2003
Wed, 02-22-2006 - 10:49am
You know I've always been told that I am very photogenic, but apparently I'm better in person than in pictures, because men are always much happier with my looks when I meet them in person. They are "pleasantly surprised" when I meet them in person.
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Registered: 03-18-2005
In reply to: juliara2003
Wed, 02-22-2006 - 6:31pm

There’s all kinds of attractiveness…