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good luck Eric
| Fri, 01-21-2005 - 7:39pm |
Dont ya have your date tomorrow? Good luck, you are going to do just fine. Remember to smile, listen, ask her questions and say she looks nice. Oh yah open the doors for her and take her jacket ;) or give her yours if she is cold....
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Eric - Have a great time, try not to be too nervous (I know -- easier said than done, especially when you feel there are real possibilities with this one).
And please, after the date, do kiss and tell (us, of course :)
Hi everyone... thanks for all your support and well wishes on my date. It's very much appreciated! :)
Now, for the date update. It was last night at a really nice Italian place here in town. I got there early cause I knew there would be a big crowd. At one point I was really afraid I was being stood up, because she was at least 20 minutes late.
She did not disappoint as far as looks go - when she came in I knew it was her because she looked like her pictures. Very pretty, tall, with dark hair and dark eyes. I was nervous but I settled down pretty fast and we seemed to have pretty good conversation.
We talked and had dinner, then I walked her to her car. She seemed to be having a good time and asked if I was up for doing something else. We decided to go to a movie since there was one of those huge 16 screen theaters nearby. We saw "Meet the Fockers" and then I took her back to her car and said goodnight.
Reading what I just wrote, it sounds like it was a really good date - but honestly, I have that "gut feeling" that we are just not a match. She just has a ton of issues and baggage. There were just lots and lots of red flags. She told me about her horrible experiences with past boyfriends - one that beat her up, one that went to jail, one that her dad paid $1,000 to so he would "go away". She also told me she has been in "several" car accidents and totaled her car a few times. In addition to that, I learned she has been to jail 7 times (7 times!) because of unpaid traffic tickets.
She told me she really liked to party back in her early 20's. I think she was really wild and maybe she still has a bit of that in her.
Anyway, I am somewhat dissapointed. However, I have learned so much from everyone on this board, so this time me expectations were not sky high.
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On a side note, something weird happened to me last night at the restarant when I was waiting for my date. I went to the bar and got a beer. As I sat there drinking it, a really attractive woman came up and asked if the two seats next to me were taken. I said no and she sat down and began to talk to me. A guy sat down next to her and she introduced him as her husband. It was just bizarre, though - before her husband sat down I thought I was being hit on...lol! She was asking me stuff like where I worked and if I traveled in my job, just being very friendly. She seemed to pay way more attention to me than to her man. I almost began to wonder if they were looking for a third... "partner". lol. OMG, it was strange. Maybe I just took it wrong but I really never had anything like that happen to me.
Wow, that is quite a story. It's not clear from your post, but you're not seriously thinking of going out with her again, are you???
I know things are slow...but you REALLY don't need that in your life!
As for the friendly woman...really, you've never had that happen before? Huh. I thought Texans were supposed to be especially friendly! That doesn't sound that unusual to me.
Sheri
You have a "gut feeling" that the two of you are not a match?? Eric, from reading your post, I think it should be crystal clear that the two of you are not a match. I'm really sorry but coming from another who has a really hard time getting dates, it truly is better to be alone than with someone with such a questionable history.
Sheri, you and jh are right. I certainly don't need a girl with issues like that. I guess it did sound like I was considering going out again. With so few dates it does make me want to be sure that we are not a match - but I already know that here.
Sheri, that's true - people down here are really friendly, but this was just different. She was flirting, plain & simple. Any husband would be very jealous if their wife acted the way she did towards me with him sitting right there.
I'm glad to hear that. I know it sounds so easy and trite to say keep looking, you deserve better, but you really do!!!
About the woman who was flirting with you...did her husband seem annoyed? Maybe they'd had a fight or something and she was trying to make him jealous.
Sheri
Hi Eric,
I'm sorry things didn't turn out the way you had hoped. She certainly doesn't sound like the type of girl that you're looking for. I'm floored at her seven trips to jail for unpaid tickets; she doesn't sound like a responsible adult, and I think you can do MUCH better!!
Holly
Eric...
Like all the others, Pianoguy is sorry that your date didn't work out.
Do you suppose this is why a lot of FIRST DATES....don't evolve into 2ND DATES?
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