Got blown off tonight

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2004
Got blown off tonight
11
Sat, 01-06-2007 - 11:00pm

I went out with the guy I've been dating for almost a month last night. (aka. The cop or Mr. Inappropriate). We had a pretty good time for the most part. I talked to him a bit about how I felt about his inappropriate comments at times(basically I called him on it when he did it again and told him how I felt) He apologized and said he didn't think he was doing it that often (ughh,ok) then he said he was trying to be a gentlemen(ugh, yeah right). He said he'd try not to do it as often.

Anyway.. fast forward to today. This morning I talked to him and he mentioned maybe hanging out again tonight so I said I had a few errands to run this afternoon and he said to call him when I was done. So I called him and he was out shopping with his parents and didn't make any mention of hanging out with me so I said, "did you still want to come over for dinner or hang out tonight" and he said "yeah he could probably do that, but needed to find out if he was going to dinner with his parents and he'd call me a little later. This was at 3pm. So dinner came and went and at 7:30 I tried calling him and got no answer. By this point I was geting kinda pissed. He finally called me at 8:30 and acted like we had never even discussed hanging out. I told him that he upset me because I was waiting around for him to call about dinner and I would have made other plans if I knew he was going to be busy but since I thought he wanted to hang out I didn't. His excuse was that he ended up going out to dinner with his parents and then they came over to his house for a bit. Ok, I'm fine with that, but he could have at least called me to tell me that he wasn't going to be able to hang out around dinner time.

When I told him I was upset he acted like it wasn't that big of a deal. He did apologize to me, but I just felt like he didn't really care that much, or at least thats the impression I got from him. Am I way off base to be upset about this? I asked him if he was going to just stay at home or if he would still like to come over since it was only 8:30. He said "why did you want to do something?" Ughh!! So I said well only if you really want to. So then he said he was going to take a shower and just go right to bed. I was honestly hoping that he would come over but I guess not. I was a little mad about that. He did ask what I'm doing tomorrow but I said I was busy (which I am, I have a date with another guy, but I didn't give him any details just said "I'm busy" )

Then, I logged into match.com a little bit ago and I looked at his profile and it said he was Online! So yeah.. he didn't go right to bed. Now, we aren't exclusive and I am dating other people also, so I really shouldn't be mad about that, but for some reason I am. I guess because I feel like he'd rather talk to other girls on match then hang out with me tonight who he has been seeing for a month. And also because he hasn't even really logged into Match for a week or two but he did tonight and I caught him while he was online when he was supposidly sleeping.

Stupid me in my anger sent him an email from match saying "hmm, so I guess you didn't go to bed" and left it at that. I got no response from him. I really hope I'm not sounding like some kind of psycho because I normally don't do stuff like that. I was just really mad. He said earlier when we talked on the phone that he'd call me tomorrow.. but I guess we'll see now, if I haven't screwed it up with my jealous anger.

Oh well I guess, just a crappy night. Thanks for listening to me vent.

On a side note, I have a 2nd date with the guy I went out with on Thurs. I'm excited because he seems really nice and we seemed to have a connection. Hopefully I can forget about tonight and just focus on this new guy and maybe the cop will come around.

Pages

Avatar for northwestwanderer
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 01-07-2007 - 10:00pm

Yeah, I figured that might be the case and I can totally relate.

Anyway, I think that even though you did overreact to him being on Match a bit, the fact that he didn't want to see you last night just isn't cool. Who wants to be with a guy who's not 100% enthusiastic about seeing you, *especially* when you're sleeping together?
I feel that way about the Rescheduler (that he's obviously not all that excited about seeing me if he FORGOT our date!), and we haven't slept together yet so I'm sure I'd be even more hurt if we had.

Anyway, I hope your date today went well.

Sheri

Pages