GREAT date last nite ....

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Registered: 03-15-2004
GREAT date last nite ....
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Sat, 10-07-2006 - 10:40am
I think I found a catch!

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Registered: 03-05-2006
Sat, 10-07-2006 - 7:02pm

Gosh, honey, you are positively gushing! It is nice to be treated well for a change.

I think you need to throw away the spreadsheet where you are comparing guys you meet to your ex and just see them for who they are. I was a little surprised that you mentioned that comparision thing twice in your post. I know he hurt you badly and you are smart to be cautious, but maybe it is time to let some more of that go.

I'd sure love to be swept off my feet and right into the bedroom, but deep down I firmly believe that a lasting relationship is going to be less about passion and more about mutual respect. Sounds kinda boring, I know. It is possible for passion to grow, I hope.

Maybe his difficulties in reading you are the reason he is still single, or maybe it is just a cultural difference. Either way, maybe just a little more patience and maybe you could spell it out. He sounds like a real gentleman.

Susie

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Registered: 04-07-2005
Sat, 10-07-2006 - 7:05pm

I am glad you had a good time but I have been wanting to respond to you in regards to using your daughter's pictures while dating online. I work as an Investigator for a large national Bank and we have had instances that children have been exploited during the course of online interactions. Think about it....if a pedophile is interested in your daughter why not go through the parent to get to her??? Honestly RLCH I am being sincere here.

I warn you and all of you who use your children in pictures in a way to attract the opposite sex online. I suggest you withdraw those photos and include only ones of yourself.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Sun, 10-08-2006 - 9:37am

I understand your concern, but dont really agree with it.

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Sun, 10-08-2006 - 9:44am

lol ... "gushing", hmmm. Funny thing its not so about that, him, its about his seeming to be really, such a sweet person.

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Sun, 10-08-2006 - 10:12am

Well I wrote the message for many not just you and there is a part of me that meant it. Not for you specifically because you are responsible for making that decision for your family. Some women pimp their children out to attract the opposite sex and doing it online is very different than meeting someone at the Y.

I am in no way referring to you specifically but I am concerned with the fact that your lovely date brought printed pics of you and your daughter. This would raise a red flag to me in regards to my child. I could be completely wrong about this man but I am looking at it objectively and not lost in the moment as you might be. I think it goes back to my strong beliefs in dating vs. children. I won't digress to that but we've had that conversation before.

My post was just a warning. I see daily the smartest of people who have allowed a person into their lives who either harm their family or take them for all the money they have and more. I don't believe in mistrusting all but there are more things to do to ensure your family's safety and sharing pics of your daugher to a perfect stranger isn't one of them.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Sun, 10-08-2006 - 11:13am

I *do* understand your concerns, b/c it can happen. I am sure it does. But a lot of things happen in life that you can & cant control. You do your best, live your life & try to be smart about what is right for your

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Registered: 10-12-2004
Sun, 10-08-2006 - 11:33am
I think it's kind of creepy that he seems so into your daughter. And that framed picture just strikes me as odd. How do you know he hasn't kept another one for himself? I would be very careful if I were you. Of course you don't mean to put her in any danger, but to me, pics of your kids online are like "Myspace." Even if this guy is OK (and I'd really think twice), what if you meet a loon who you later stop seeing -- he knows your daughter's name, picture, and depending on your conversation, which I bet you aren't that conscious of, maybe even where she goes to school and other details of her life. If something ever happened, you'd wonder why you were so careless.
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Sun, 10-08-2006 - 11:53am

Oh Boy ... Ok, I am off this conversation. Have said my piece. (he doesnt even know our last name, btw, at this point. Nor my home phone number, nor my home address ... NOT that someone couldn't find that info out .... but ANYone could if they really wanted to).


Its was a simple nice gesture. Give me some credit here, will ya? Sheesh.

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Registered: 04-29-2003
Sun, 10-08-2006 - 12:59pm

I think it was a nice gesture - most of the women on this board only "hope" to have a connection no matter how long or how short that you have found in just a month or so with this new man. Enjoy - life is short, the end of the world could be tomorrow so if you feel right about it, it gives you a little extra kick in your walk each day then its well worth it!!!


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Registered: 05-31-2005
Sun, 10-08-2006 - 1:21pm

Listen you... you better go post on my challenge thread! LOL ;o)


Good luck and of course, keep us posted but I know you will...

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