Great first date

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Registered: 12-10-2004
Great first date
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Fri, 02-18-2005 - 4:16am

So tonight I had a great first date. I picked a little restaurant that neither of us had been to and both of us had trouble finding, but we made it okay. :)

This particular gal, I had on my "favorites" list but hadn't gotten to emailing her yet (I only put out one or two emails at a time, wait a week or so to see if there's going to be a response, then the ones that do maybe a date or three... I just can't "shotgun" and I can't date more than two or three at a time- and not for extended periods, and usually I prefer to just date one or two at a time.)

She sent me what was probably the best email I ever got in OLD- so she contacted me first!

It said she was getting overwhelmed by the emails she was getting (she had taken her profile down) and that she was hoping to find someone in a more selective way, and that "if you are curious enough, reply to this email and you'll not be sorry".

What guy could resist that? Plus I remembered her username and that she'd been on my favorites list. :)

So I emailed her back, we went back and forth a round of emails or two, called her, set up a date, and away we went. I even admitted that I'd had her in my favorites list and tonight at dinner she asked about it, and I explained why I hadn't written to her- that I only write to one or two at a time, and that she had hidden her profile before I could write her.

Anyway, just a nice date. Have another one. Don't know if anything serious will shake out, but just wanted to report that there is hope, because believe me- if *I* can have a nice, normal date, y'all can as well. ;)

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 8:44am

Awesome...I hope things work out for you!!!

Keep us posted.

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Registered: 12-11-2004
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 9:02am

Not to burst your bubble, but I've had a few great first dates, and had tentatively set up the 2nd date that same night, only to never hear from the girl again.

So just keep your emotions restrained for a few dates.

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Registered: 08-27-2004
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 9:53am

Hey, NGOL, I just to tell you that I'm very happy for you about your great first date. I hope the second one goes just as well! When are the two of you getting together again? Have fun, and good luck!

Holly

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Registered: 01-29-2005
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 9:57am

" but just wanted to report that there is hope, because believe me- if *I* can have a nice, normal date, y'all can as well. ;) "

***sniff***

tanks for the encouragement - I really needed to hear it right now.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 11:40am

Excellent! Glad to hear it...when's your next date? Keep us posted...

Sheri

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Fri, 02-18-2005 - 1:02pm

>>if *I* can have a nice, normal date, y'all can as well. ;)



  • There are more nice, normal girls online than nice, normal guys.

  • Don't steal my "y'all", dude.
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Registered: 12-10-2004
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 1:08pm

Yeah, thanks for THAT reminder. Jerk. :P

No, seriously, I've had that happen too. I had a first date several weeks back, I think it might have been right before you started posting here... almost exactly that same situation happened. Lovely first date, incredible gal, sat and chatted over coffee for two hours, set up second date... day before second date, she cancelled via email, saying that she wasn't "fully invested" in "pursuing this relationship" any further.

I was like "WTH?" I mean, yeah, I was excited by the potential, but how much investment does it take for a coffee date and then a casual dinner date? Sheesh. Women.

Anyway, this gal last night, I suspect won't cancel. Gut instinct- when we were done for dinner we had a nice walk, she took hold of my elbow, and when we got back to the cars she went to give me a big hug and we wound up kissing- mostly because I wanted one, and she hesitated for a second, but when she got into it, it was a pretty good kiss. She is a lot shorter than me, it's been a while since I kissed a gal who was almost a full foot shorter than I am. I feel like such a manly man when it's like that. ;)

Who knows- if she does ghost at least I'll know that I'm capable of having an adult date and nice time anyway.

FWIW, I have been trying out some of the tactics suggested here in the past couple of months. I asked her out quite quickly- we had only traded maybe 3 or 4 emails. I chatted with her on the phone, but only briefly, keeping the conversation short (10 minutes or so) and pleasant. I even confirmed the date once it was set. Email, not a phone call, but just to cover my bets. :)

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Fri, 02-18-2005 - 1:31pm

>>There are more nice, normal girls online than nice, normal guys<<

You know, I have come to that conclusion as well.

There are MANY more guys online than gals... overall. But of the people, I think that there is a fairly high percentage of men who are stereotypical "can't settle down" types, or socially retarded, or something. It seems like more of the women doing OLD are normal and reasonable.

I mean, I come here and read the stories of the penis pictures, of the groping on the first date, and so forth, and I'm just amazed. I see that stuff and think that a good, normal guy ought to be able to do VERY well- if he can just get across that he's a good, normal guy!

I think that might also be why we see what John pointed out- women might be a little bit quick to NEXT some guy. It's not right, but they can't really be blamed, either, because they're coming across so many loserdudes that they have to NEXT quickly to defend themselves. It just stinks that occasionally some good guys pay the price for all the loserdudes.

There are plenty of women who're messed up doing OLD, of course. I've run across several. But the more I'm involved in it, the more I believe that it's a higher percentage of weirdo guys than girls, and that bodes well for me, I think.

Now I just need to figure out how to get this chick into bed with another girl so I can have a threesome. LOL No, just kidding, I'll save that for at least the third or fourth date. ;)

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Fri, 02-18-2005 - 4:10pm

"Now I just need to figure out how to get this chick into bed with another girl so I can have a threesome."


There ya go!

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Registered: 10-26-2004
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 4:29pm

Hi NG,

See!? WE know you are a NG, now She will too! And, please, if you,like her, Don't play any of the little 'wait and be suave" games with her, let her know she is fun, sweet, pretty, and roll from there!

Somehow,though, I bet I do Not even Have to say that to You and you will be your wonderful self!

Enjoy!

Truly,
Cupcake

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