Great first date

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Great first date
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Fri, 02-18-2005 - 4:16am

So tonight I had a great first date. I picked a little restaurant that neither of us had been to and both of us had trouble finding, but we made it okay. :)

This particular gal, I had on my "favorites" list but hadn't gotten to emailing her yet (I only put out one or two emails at a time, wait a week or so to see if there's going to be a response, then the ones that do maybe a date or three... I just can't "shotgun" and I can't date more than two or three at a time- and not for extended periods, and usually I prefer to just date one or two at a time.)

She sent me what was probably the best email I ever got in OLD- so she contacted me first!

It said she was getting overwhelmed by the emails she was getting (she had taken her profile down) and that she was hoping to find someone in a more selective way, and that "if you are curious enough, reply to this email and you'll not be sorry".

What guy could resist that? Plus I remembered her username and that she'd been on my favorites list. :)

So I emailed her back, we went back and forth a round of emails or two, called her, set up a date, and away we went. I even admitted that I'd had her in my favorites list and tonight at dinner she asked about it, and I explained why I hadn't written to her- that I only write to one or two at a time, and that she had hidden her profile before I could write her.

Anyway, just a nice date. Have another one. Don't know if anything serious will shake out, but just wanted to report that there is hope, because believe me- if *I* can have a nice, normal date, y'all can as well. ;)

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Fri, 02-18-2005 - 7:19pm
Hey NGOL - if you marry this girl you'll have to go bother the married crowd on their board...
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Fri, 02-18-2005 - 7:34pm

>>There are more nice, normal girls online than nice, normal guys.

Oh yeah, here's my roundup of normal:

1. Ok - #1 was normal
2. Battling an ex, still in court
3. 15 minutes per week to date - only on Wed when the ex picked up the kids, but wanted to chat every night on the phone
4. findaplaydate.com
5. Lookup the definition of "high maintenance" and her picture is there (but taught me those with the cutest pictures can turn out to be the least interesting)
6. "My friend made me put the profile up" - makes me sit in a very specific section of the meet, explains afterwards how she thought of bringing a cop friends as a backup to her dating first meets with secret "cough" signals to show if she was "in trouble". (I'm pretty sure she had backup that night or why would we have to sit in a certain area? Luckily I didn't provoke a cough attack).

And those are only the lovelies that I met in person ...

Girls are definitely NOT more normal than Boys. Nope, nope, nope...

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Registered: 04-29-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 7:38pm

Here’s hoping you’ll be drinking green beers with this lovely come this Saint Patty’s Day in March!!!

Peanut

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Fri, 02-18-2005 - 9:05pm

Hi NG,

Ohhhh, so thaaaaat's why these tall men I date like to mac down with me? Granted,I am shorter than the population of your average junior high, at 5 feet tall! :)

Truly,
Cupcake

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Fri, 02-18-2005 - 10:54pm
hey, congratulation to ya, NGOL!! :)
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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 12:31am

>>So, inquiring minds want to know... did you ask for a second date yet? or are you playing it cool?<<

Um, by that standard, I'm definitely NOT cool. If I want a second date, I will ask before the first date is over. :)

In this particular case, we were strolling after dinner, and on our way back to the car I said that I had had a very good time and that she really neat and I would very much like to go out again. So would she like to go out again?

And she looked me right in the eye and said... "no, I don't think so." I didn't bat an eyelash- I just said "okay". Then her face twitched and she laughed and said "what do you think?" She was just kidding around, ya see.

She's totally got my sense of humor. :) I mean, at this point she had taken my arm and we were walking along semi-snuggled... it was obvious we were going to go out again.
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Ms Delicious (the CupCake) said...
>>Don't play any of the little 'wait and be suave" games with her, let her know she is fun, sweet, pretty, and roll from there!<<

Oh, don't worry. That's definitely not me- I told her at dinner that her pictures didn't do her justice and that she had pretty eyes. And she called me tonight and left voicemail while I was out getting a bite.

So I think it's moving swimmingly. ;)

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Registered: 10-26-2004
Sat, 02-19-2005 - 2:34am

Awwww NG!,
Ok, my frosting is green with jealousy, but I will let her have you...howevah,if she does not treat you right, I WILL bring my little kick-box instructor derriere up there and rearrange her 'assets'!

Don't say we didn't say we adore you! :)

I think it sounds Wonderful...and I think what is my fave part is this is SO natural for you to treat a Woman Just This Way!

Got any male cousins with this same DNA twist Below the Mason-Dixon line?!

Hope your second date is even Better than the first, and I'd bet my hard-earned paycheck that it WILL be!!!
Take her to the movies and hold her hand, that is a Cupcake favorite!

Truly,
Cupcake

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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 11:11am
Aww, that's great. Good for you! Sounds like she's got potential. I always love it when people crack jokes in that totally deadpan straight-in-the-eye poker face JUST long enough to make you wonder. :)
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Tue, 02-22-2005 - 4:01am

Great first date- update! :)

So today (Monday) the gal I had a good first date with called me. We had already set up a date for Tuesday evening, but she happened to be coming in near my neighborhood tonight, and would I like to get a quick bite to eat?

Well, of course! :)

So we had some dinner (very casual, and she even paid!) and have a date again on Tuesday (tomorrow). I'd say it's going quite well. Plus I have another couple of first meetings set up for next week- suddenly it's feast season again (as opposed to the famine that my dating life was for a month or so there).

Gotta make hay while the sun shines, right? ;)

Of course, I'm trying hard to keep with Sheri's motto- any time I see this gal might well be the last time, because she might just flake out and ghost like so many others have to all of us in the past. I hope she doesn't, but I'm ready if she does. Heck, I'm ready for nearly anything- I am the master of my domain, after all!

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