the guy

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Registered: 08-22-2003
the guy
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Tue, 05-10-2005 - 12:29am

just wanted to tell you guys, i hung out with the guy i was telling you all about that i met in RL thru a good friend a few weeks ago. He hung out with us both friday and saturday nights. Its rare that he hangs out with my girlfriend that much- but they have known each other for 3 years now and know alot about each other. so she said it had alot to do with me lately that hes hanging out more. but we all get along in a group, its he/his best friends/myself and girlfriend.

anyhow - ahhhh nothing will happen. i came out of my fog and realized, no matter how serious or not this girl is with him, he still feels loyalty bc he can't bring himself just to dump her bc someone better came along, so i guess hes working through with what to do now....

i know he is attracted to me. not only did he tell my friend that but also wanted to know what to do in this situation - how to go out with me and how he should handle breaking up w/ the girl hes dating long distance (she lives about 500 miles from where we are). and also my friend said he stares at me alot when we're out together. when we're one/one in the group, i just can't explain that amazing feeling i get standing next to him. its rare im speechless, and i find myself fumbling for words with him. he does the same with me.

i know the first reaction was "hey this guy is a cheater" - but its so far from that. we havent even done anything remotely romantic. we've just hung out in a group alot lately. and we do talk and its wonderful i have to admit.

figures. my luv life is always bittersweet. the good from this is that there is a guy out there who is everything i have wanted in one person. I never thought that person existed until this guy. he will make a terrific friend if nothing else.

just wanted to give a head's up ;) thanks for letting me share.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: surfergirl77
Tue, 05-10-2005 - 10:04am
Aww... it's funny how when you meet someone you actually *like* as opposed to just lusting after, it's easier to just say okay, something may or may not happen, but right now is not the right time and that's fine... AND the fact that he's not acting on the attraction, to carefully consider the LDGF situation first, shows some real honorable character. Sounds like a good guy and hey, you have the chance to hang out on the friendship level without all that messy confusing dating stuff. ;)