This guy ... kinda long

Avatar for sk3035
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-11-2003
This guy ... kinda long
17
Sun, 01-22-2006 - 6:36pm

Ok, this guy from OLD

He contacted me and I accepted him. After several days, he sends me a message "I am wondering where to go from here .. write or talk? Let me know what you are more comfortable with."

Alright, so I sent him a message back on the same day saying "Let's talk a little on emails and then go to phone" and gave him my email id for him to write back.

After 5 days, he writes to me letting me know a little (very brief) about himself ending the email with "More later on hearing from you". I wrote back the next day in the same tone letting him know a little bit about myself and also telling him that since my profile is very brief and concise, he is free to ask me whatever he wanted to and that I will look forward to hearing from him.

He again replies back after 5 days on Jan 2 just to wish me a happy new year ... that's it!! Anyways, thinking that he atleast didn't forget me, I replied to his email JUST thanking him and wishing him for the new year.

I don't hear from him for 10 days. On the 11th day, he emails me saying "Please feel free to call me on my cell number or if I prefer let me have your number and the good times to reach you. I look forward to talking with you soon."

This kind of raised my eyebrow - in the sense that this guy who was not at all friendly was writing to me after 10 days and wants to talk to me SOON.

Anyways, I replied back to his email on the 3rd day asking him what time after 6:30 on a weekday works for him and that I will call him.

So, after 2 days, he writes to me letting me know that I could call him anytime after 7pm.

I call him the next day and get his voice mail. I leave a message for him - that I got his email, letting him know my cell number and leaving it upto him if he wanted to call me back.

He calls me after 1 hour. Since I was in the washroom, I couldn't pick up the phone. He leavs a voicemail saying that he was out having dinner with some people from his office and that he would try me again. If he is not able to reach me that night, he would call me later the next day.

He didn't call me that night. He didn't call me the next day and he hasn't called me today.

This has me all confused. Can anyone sense what this guy really wants or is he just playing games?

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-31-2005
Sun, 01-22-2006 - 7:30pm

Ok personally, I really have a thing for people who do not say what they say they're going to do. So the fact that he did not call when he said would have me annoyed. He sounds a bit flakey or like someone who's not all that interested, given the amount of time he waited to contact you.


Personally? I would next him. Is there something that's making you think differently?


Hope this helps.


Kerry


Avatar for sk3035
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-11-2003
Sun, 01-22-2006 - 7:39pm

Given the amount of time he waited to get in touch with me - 10 days. In those 10 days, he didn't even logon to OLD. Am I looking for excuses - nope, but that's a fact that he didn't.

Anyways, his behavior does seem odd to me and yes I'm annoyed. The only thing that has been making me reply to his emails is the fact that I'm attracted to his pic and profile. But I have to stop somewhere if this bahavior continues.

What should I do if he calls ... probably just be polite and see where it goes. I have been talking to other guys as well, and they have apologized to me on emails the very next day if they didn't call and they've called me the next day.

Please I need more advice here on this..

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-19-2004
Sun, 01-22-2006 - 8:20pm

The ball is in his court.

Photobucket

Avatar for sk3035
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-11-2003
Sun, 01-22-2006 - 8:39pm
He called - right now. And we are talking ...
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-31-2005
Sun, 01-22-2006 - 8:49pm

So what happened???


Avatar for sk3035
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-11-2003
Sun, 01-22-2006 - 10:07pm

ok, we talked for 40 min and it was a very friendly conversation. We both saw the potential to have another phone conversation.

He apologised and explained why he couldn't attent my call day before yesterday, but he didn't say anything about him not calling me yesterday except that during the conversation, he said it was his father's b'day yesterday.

On the whole, it's very early for me to say anything, but he seems to be a friendly guy with whom I can talk.

Wooo...hooo

Avatar for sk3035
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-11-2003
Tue, 01-24-2006 - 6:36pm
I didn't get any feedback on this ... ??
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-31-2005
Tue, 01-24-2006 - 7:38pm

Hey there...


Based on your last post, I didn't realize you wanted feedback. So what is it you're looking for feedback on? :o)


iVillage Member
Registered: 01-18-2006
Tue, 01-24-2006 - 7:56pm

Girlfriend:


It is time to "Next" him!! Hello 10 days??? I am completely and totally annoyed by any man who says one thing and does another. Totally lets me think, "If you are already acting like this what else do I have to look forward to?"


babies 

         &nbsp

Avatar for sk3035
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-11-2003
Tue, 01-24-2006 - 8:48pm

Is there something more you can expect from someone you have never met, never talked on phone and have exchanged only 1 email?

There are a couple of guys who have repeatedly contacted me and I have taken my time in responding to them, probably because I was not that interested or just wanted to waste my time...

Pages