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| Sun, 05-29-2005 - 10:26am |
I have two questions...ok, maybe a question and a complaint! LOL!
I met a guy online and we've seen each other two times. After two dates I know I'm attacted to him and would like to see him again. He says he feels the same. He says that he's newly divorced, about 3 months. He has kids and goes to the ex's house for family dinners, loans her his car, and fixes things around the house. I'm divorced too and can understand that it takes some time to detach...especially when kids are involved. When you meet someone online, how do you know if they're telling you the truth about their situation? I'd like to continue seeing this guy but because of people in my past being dishonest, I'm leary. How should I approach this?
Second questions... I have a profile on an online dating site and have two pictures posted. One is a full body shot, the other from the waist up. I get comments from guys that my pictures are nice, that I'm pretty, etc. but once I start e-mailing/chatting with them they start asking if I have more photos to share. Its like they don't believe the pictures are real or they're not brave enough to make a decision to "just meet" until they have more proof that I am what I am. After they see 2 pics of me (more than I usually get of them) and chat/e-mail with me for a while, why do they want more pics before we meet? Is this common or am I being too sensitive?

smileann....
Pianoguy has these thoughts concerning your 2 questions.
1. The man you're interested in probably has a "working family relationship" with the EX?
Then one guy I actually met I had asked why he wanted so many pix of me. I sent about 10 of them. He said that he had met a few ladies who did not look like their pictures. And he told one of them "You look different from your pix" the response was "Oh, that was taken 5 years ago." Since then, he'd ask for multiple pictures and the dates of each one prior to meeting them.
I wouldn't date someone who is so involved with his ex wife. I would never think to ask my ex husband to borrow his car or invite him over for a holiday dinner. He has visitation with our son and that's it.
As for the photo thing, whenever I did online dating, I would put up one or two photos. I never had anyone ask for additional photos. Also, I didn't post glamour shots of myself either. In some of my photos, I wasn't even wearing make-up. The guys who contacted me thought I looked cute in my natural looking photos and really thought I looked even better in person (when I was wearing make-up)
2 of my best friends separated last year and have a young son together... they are divorcing but didn't start the actual paperwork & whatnot until pretty recently.