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| Fri, 09-23-2005 - 1:05am |
I have been meeting guys thru online dating, and the current one happens to be the one i like the most, so i'm hoping something works out between us.
However, i can't sense if he's interested in me or not. On our 1st blind date, he talked about his ex-gf, which gave me the impression he probably hasn't gotten over her. We sms-ed quite alot after that. He then asked me out for lunch 3 weeks later, a long gap isn't it? Few nights after that we went for a concert in which he paid for my ticket, which was a really expensive one. I tried to pay him back but he wouldn't accept.
I know we've just met and i shouldn't expect much, but i'm disappointed to see that he still frequently logs into the dating website where we 'met' (btw, i can browse and see who's been active without logging in myself). I used to be very active online until i met this guy, so if he's like me, he's probably still searching, isn't he? I am touched by the concert ticket thing though....
Maybe i shouldn't put in too much hope in him.

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That is a tough one. I guess he could log in just to see "what's going on", if anyone has looked at his profile. It did occur to me that some of these people get addicted to it, in a way. Not sure. Good luck.
Sara
Some people dont mind parting with money it does not make for emotional connection.
I am a very busy person and sometimes really cant be arsed to return calls or do the vising friends thing.
I know this sounds bad but it works for me.... I spend good money on my friends at frequent intervals and it seems to quieten the grumbling about my not being as intouch as they expect.
Moral of my tale is dont think paying for the ticket means much more than that. He may just be used to paying for things. expensive or not
No, you shouldn't put too much "hope in him", or anyone you've just met. You've only had 3 dates...you're expecting that you should be exclusive already? That doesn't make sense to me.
It sounds like his interest level in you is moderate. I would definitely keep dating other people, and not expecting anything to happen with this guy. If it does, great, but that would be gravy.
Sheri
Just relax and enjoy the time you spend together. Who knows what the future brings...
Fluffy
Hi Lindsay,
He will still be online until he decides that he wants to be exclusive.
CL-Truewild1969
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I guess i had predicted the advice but just needed to hear from different people as a 'reminder'. Of course it's too early to expect much from this guy, i should keep dating other guys too, but i'm currently tired of playing the guessing game, as well as meeting new people online.
Same thing happened with another guy i met a few months back. We went out 6-7 times and he was nice in every respect except he never offered to pick me up. I drove myself to meet him everytime! Sure was a first time! He was still active online, and so was I at that time. Of course, as u can see, nothing happened to both of us, and i don't hear from him anymore.
With this one that I like, I'll just go along with the flow and take things as they come.
Thanks again.
Oh btw, how do i reply to 'ALL'? I've seen posters doing that but i can't seem to get it?
Let me give you some advice (maybe unwanted). If a guy pays for something...don't try to pay him back. Men like to do stuff like pay for your concert ticket, buy dinner, etc. It really turns a guy off when women are wanting to pay for too much. Sure it is okay to pay for dinner or a movie once in a while, but they like to do the majority of the paying.
The women's lib movement wants to make women feel bad for letting guys buy...don't buy into that crap!!!
It has got to be tough to date someone 2-3 times and feel like they don't like you the same way as you like them. Eek. But it seems like that is what OLD is about because of the nature of the beast. Not always fun. But Like *everyone* has said, I guess the best you can do is have a good time when you are with him.
Sara
The women's lib movement wants to make women feel bad for letting guys buy...don't buy into that crap!!!
Oh yes, that was a top priority of the women's lib movement, making women feel guilty for letting guys pay.
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