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| Fri, 09-23-2005 - 1:05am |
I have been meeting guys thru online dating, and the current one happens to be the one i like the most, so i'm hoping something works out between us.
However, i can't sense if he's interested in me or not. On our 1st blind date, he talked about his ex-gf, which gave me the impression he probably hasn't gotten over her. We sms-ed quite alot after that. He then asked me out for lunch 3 weeks later, a long gap isn't it? Few nights after that we went for a concert in which he paid for my ticket, which was a really expensive one. I tried to pay him back but he wouldn't accept.
I know we've just met and i shouldn't expect much, but i'm disappointed to see that he still frequently logs into the dating website where we 'met' (btw, i can browse and see who's been active without logging in myself). I used to be very active online until i met this guy, so if he's like me, he's probably still searching, isn't he? I am touched by the concert ticket thing though....
Maybe i shouldn't put in too much hope in him.

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"Sheesh. You can be a feminist and still believe in chivalry."
Ahhhhh, yes.... I suspected cb's post might stir the pot a bit.... As one of the perceived "harsh" posters here, I'll not weigh in any more than to say "touché", Jennie.
Tracy
Oh shoot!
Hi,
I just may be one of those "harsh" posters. Seems to me that was a statement of opinion. We all have a right to our own opinion. Many men have told me they prefer to pay also. Chalk it up as a guy thing..OK!
As for womens lib..your welcome to it. We didn't recieve equal pay for equal work or better treatment and more respect. We did get to climb close to mens rate of heart attacks. We now have more confusion as to dating etiquette. Divorce has escalated, marraige declined. Who knows, maybe our death rates can match those of men in the service also.
I don't have the strength of most men. No, I can't do many of the jobs they do. To me, that's fact! Those who
I know, a friend of mine has told me before: always let the guy pay on the 1st 3 dates.
I've always let guys pay, even though i felt guilty about it, but it just wouldn't look good if i take out my money when the waitress brings the bill to HIM. I then sometimes pay for smaller things when there's the opportunity, which is not frequent at all.
Anyway, to keep u guys updated, yesterday i bought tickets for another concert next weekend, priced at a quarter of what he paid for the last concert(he doesn't know the price yet). I just thought it would be a nice thing to do, plus, i do wanna go to that concert, and i'd like his company. He's seems pretty happy about it :)
I did wonder if i've done this too soon. I thought of waiting and see if he would ask me out again, then i would know if he's interested, but then i'd have a hard time figuring whether i should pay or not. So i thought i can take control for once and get the tickets anyway. Dunno if i did the right thing...
I hate it when i'm always caught in the 'to pay or not' dilemma! I'm glad most of the advice given on this board says i shouldn't worry about it :)
When I was in elememtary school my mom had a job and she found out that a co-worker with the same responsibilities as her was paid more.
And the divorce rate may be up, but my grandmother had to stay married to an angry abusive man her entire adult life because divorce was not an option for her, and she would not have been able to support her 5 children.
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