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| Sun, 01-22-2006 - 2:31pm |
I was matched with a guy through an OLD site (eHarmony).
| Sun, 01-22-2006 - 2:31pm |
I was matched with a guy through an OLD site (eHarmony).
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If you have any interest at all in meeting him, say that tonight will not work but suggest meeting another time for lunch or coffee. You don't have to tell him yet that you are not comfortable meeting for a "drank" unless he further pushes the issue.
If you don't have any interest in meeting him any more, close him on the site and give a reason such as "no chemistry" or something.
I have learned not to drink alchol on a first meet......the hard way.
I tend to do and say things I would never do after 2 drinks.
Coffee is much better. Just bring gum (I dislike coffee breath)
I would go on the meet. But I would have an out. Meet on your lunch hour, or have an appointment that you can't miss...something. That way your not stuck there hating life if the guy is a jerk/loser/whatever
Personally, I'd NEXT this goofball.
Strike 1: jumped to meet without answering your questions.
Strike 2: same day invitation? Pass.
Strike 3: a drink for a first meet is fine sometimes, but combined with the other oddness, I'd question this guy's intentions.
Sounds like you're not too excited about him anyway, so now you have a more concrete excuse.
I had the same experience except that I talked with this guy on phone twice and he suggested to meet - this was on Friday. Since I already had plans for the weekend, I told him to let's meet the next weekend. He said he would call again later that week to decide/discuss where to meet blah blah.
The whole week passed by and he calls me friday evening asking me if we could meet. I told him bluntly that he has to call me by wednesday evening. Even though we had talked last friday, since we didn't get to talk to each other again, I had made other plans and I'm all booked for the weekend. ... Well, I made it clear to him that I HAVE A LIFE and AM NOT SITTING HERE FOR HIM TO CALL ME AND MAKE PLANS!!
Now the ball is in his court. Whether he calls or not, I'm fine with both. Sometimes yuo just have to let the guy know that you are not available as and when he wants to meet you.
I still haven't decided what to do with this guy. I've never responded to his invitation.
Even though he has my regular email address and has emailed me there, he left an
Good luck. I know I get impatient through eH because until a point, you have NO control of the pace of the back and forth. So when someone doesn't get back with me for a week or so, I close them b/c I figure they're not interested. One guy I was intrigued by didn't respond to my first open communication for over a week. I hated to do it but I closed him. I'm not sitting around waiting for him. After I closed one guy after I hadn't heard from him for 3 weeks after I sent my phone number sent one of those responses "I thought we had a connection. I wish you'd reconsider." Yeah, so much of a connection that you didn't contact me for 3 weeks! Whatever!
Anyway, all that just to say that in this impatient world of OLD, if you have an interest in someone, you better stay somewhat consistent and prompt in the replies b/c they might move on or lose interest.
I do the same thing vexer.
I had a guy email me we got to open communication and he hasn't emailed since the 14th. So I closed him monday night and then he sends me a final message, Goodluck. DORK!
There was another one too, we went through the stages and now it's been stuck on Must Haves/Cant Stands...so I closed him as well.
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