is the guy without pic ever attractive?

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Registered: 11-04-2005
is the guy without pic ever attractive?
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Thu, 12-08-2005 - 11:44pm

Just wondering. I read past threads in which people said in cases where a guy didn't have a pic and one was requested, he would disappear off the face of the planet, or when one finally sent a pic, he looked like he weighed 600 pounds.

It sounds like the basic approach among folks here, when approached by a guy without a pic is to bluntly ask for one. I wonder, are there any cases where you were pleasantly surprised?

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Registered: 09-09-2004
Fri, 12-09-2005 - 11:30am
is the guy without pic ever attractive? <-----Yes. And now he's my husband!
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Registered: 04-21-2003
Fri, 12-09-2005 - 8:07pm
I agree with these opinions: sometimes a man (or woman) has a good reason for not posting (job-related, for example) and sometimes a bad reason (married!). Also I agree that choosing dates via Internet--or the old-fashioned agency where you looked through a photo album and chose--does make us more superficial. It's quite different from meeting someone IRL, not thinking of him as a date, and gradually getting to know him and "seeing" him differently.
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Registered: 04-19-2004
Sat, 12-10-2005 - 8:50am

Yes they can be attractive. But it's few and far between. Long ago when I first started doing online dating, nobody really had pictures because at that time you had to be really in the money to purchase a digital camera and the only way to put pictures up was if you had a scanner. So it wasn't as cut and dry as it is today.

I've met maybe 5 guys that were attractive that didn't have pictures.

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Registered: 02-01-2005
Sat, 12-10-2005 - 11:27am
Yep. All the time. And no, they aren't always married (two have been, about 14 haven't).
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Registered: 10-11-2005
Sat, 12-10-2005 - 10:01pm
Hi,
I just wanted to comment, as I do not post pics. I plan to post one on eharmony, because they cannot be browsed there. I am uncomfortable with 'anyone' being able to see my picture, my location etc. It's nice to meet people, but how would I feel if one day my children started reading my profile to me?
Don't assume that they will be bad looking if there is no photo. Ask them for one. I have only met one person who may have left out a photo because he had burns on his face. When emailing, he mentioned an accident, but never specifically burns. I met him without seeing a pic. The truth is he was a jerk...they come in all shapes, sizes and colors just like the nice ones.
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Registered: 11-05-2003
Sun, 12-11-2005 - 9:24am

Well, my ex-fiance didn't have a pic & he turned out to be a hottie. I did see a pic before we met though. I won't do a totally blind date.

I can see why someone might not want to post a pic with their profile. I've gone back & forth with myself about it. I've actually been recognized & approached in person, out in public, by guys who saw my personal ad first, then saw me out & started talking to me. That could be a good or bad thing. Luckily those guys haven't been scary. :)

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Registered: 11-17-2004
Sun, 12-11-2005 - 9:52am

Normally, I won't even talk to someone if they don't have a picture or won't send me one after I ask for one. I figure, "hey, you've seen mine, it's only fair". I did meet one guy who is now a good friend of mine who didn't post a picture and didn't send me one until we had already established a friendship through several e-mails, and most women would find him very attractive. 5'11", 240 pounds, single digit body fat (he's a non-pro body builder) but he's physically not my type, but he sure didn't look like the elephant man ;)

However, with that being said, I won't meet someone until I see a picture. Call me shallow if you will, but I don't see it that way. Physical attraction isn't everything but it is important and I would just feel uncomfortable meeting someone that I a) didn't know what they looked like at all or b) they lied about their appearance (thankfully it hasn't happened yet!)

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