Guys are stupid! I'm sick of them all!!

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Guys are stupid! I'm sick of them all!!
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Tue, 12-13-2005 - 7:01am

One minute I had all these guys wanting to date me and then the next they all go quiet. Yeah you guys are right, I had nothing to worry about because these guys are just too stupid to follow through!!

The guy I dated over the weekend, T, sent me a message and said that if I'm still interested we should catch up again soon. So 6 hours later I replied and said, I had a great time and would be good to catch up again soon. I didn't use any flowery emotive words, but it was straightforward enough: yes I want to see you again. I actually like him and I think he's hot... but... NO reply. Grrr

Then the guy that I haven't met yet who is overseas, M, said he tried to call me last night but my phone was engaged. My phone didn't ring once last night! Got an email from him today saying that he's just got back from a xmas party tonight and is tired.... but hope to chat soon. Oh yeah, he said thanks for the pics- "You're cute!" ???? Gee- I don't know if that is good or bad! Now I think he won't call- not tonight, not tomorrow, not the day after... oh and when is he coming back from overseas?! Grrrr

Then there is G, who I met at speed dating. He has sent me 2 emails, the 2nd one saying that he's flat out with work but would like to catch up this sunday maybe, and will email me again later on this week. Yeah right!

This other dude, D, wanted to meet me at the beach (to which I declined) last week suddenly re-surfaced. He said that it's time we talked and gave me his home number to call. I ignored him.

Am I being surrounded by jerks and cowards? Gosh I am so naive you girls must be laughing!! I feel stupid and peeved and I think tomorrow I will not answer any calls. Stuff them all! I really feel like crying now. :(

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Registered: 03-19-2005
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 7:29am

No one is laughing at you because we all are going through the same thing. Someone seems so into you for a week or two then suddenly vanishes. I've gotten to the point where I expect that from everyone I chat/meet with. I just expect them to be, yet, another disappointment.
I think of it this way. If they bail out early on it's best. This way you are not wasting your time. And that time can be spent looking for the right one.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 7:37am
yeah i guess I'm just a bit disappointed... so yep, I'm not going to expect anything. They can all jump for all I care! I think I will go shopping!!
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Registered: 02-19-2004
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 9:22am

Remember, you are looking for that guy that isn't stupid and can follow through.

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Registered: 10-27-2003
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 9:31am

Correct me if I'm wrong, but what your post said to me was, four guys are interested in you. The holiday's are a very busy time of year for most people, people are traveling, shopping, attending parties and spending time with family and friends. You have four men who have told you they'd like to see you or at least communicate with you. Granted it may not be within the time frame you'd like, but I'd say you're doing pretty good. Relax, if you come off as over anxious to them, you'll most likely end up back at square one.

Good Luck!

Libra

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Registered: 07-20-2001
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 10:07am
Quite honestly it sounds like you have some interest from some of these men, regardless of whether you have any real interest in them. Maybe one or two of the several you mentioned have some potential. You are getting more messages and interest than I am at the moment, but I'm not actively trying to date online right now. I'm taking a break in a way, but still not hearing anything from any of the previous connections I've made. Don't write them all off until you know for sure.
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 10:18am

Exactly what I was thinking libra. Yeah, of course there will be those that say that "if he's into you, he'll make time to call" but honestly, everyone I know is swamped these days with the holidays. You have luncheons, dinners parties, shopping, family events... RM, just chill a bit and wait. Chances are, that at least a couple will get back to you. It's only been a day or so for most of them -

The first guy has been pretty insistent about wanting to see you. Give him a little time to get back - sure you only took six hours but maybe he's playing it cool or lost access to email or had a party last night!

Out of town guy just returned from being OVERSEAS. That's a long flight and he probably is tired. He could have just never called you again upon returning if he wasn't interested. And maybe there were problems on his end with the phone. International calls are notoriously problematic especially this time of year.

Speed dating guy could be busy at work. Again, why would he bother to call and tentatively set something up if he didn't want to. A lot of people are slammed at work right now. He could have just blown you off. Give him the benefit of the doubt until you DON'T hear from him on Sunday.

I will say that beach guy is probably a flake. Probably his other beach bunny didn't work out so he's calling you for a second chance.

But good gracious girl, calm down and let these guys breathe. How would you feel if some guy nexted you because you didn't call him back within a day?

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 3:58pm
ah ladies... you're right... I'll give them the chance but I'm going to expect nothing! I'm from Australia so it's just less than 24hrs ahead of you. Last contact with the first guy was Sunday.... right now it's Wednesday. Oh... I don't know... I guess I was just disappointed last night at M cos I thought he was really keen. And with the first guy, he's going away this Sunday... so there's not much chance to see him probably until after Christmas. yikes.
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 5:48pm

Yeah, that is quite a while especially after he'd been so attentive. Who knows - he might still come around but he might not. Sounds like you have the right attitude now - no expectations but if they do call, OK.

Good luck - hopefully they all don't wind up being flakes! But all the more reason to keep all those irons in the fire until something happens. You never know!

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