Guys who don’t read profiles ;-(

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Registered: 11-05-2005
Guys who don’t read profiles ;-(
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Wed, 03-08-2006 - 4:17pm

Hello Ladies,

First of all thanks to all of you on this board for being there. I don’t post or reply to post all that often because I feel that I am not as experienced as some of you are. However, I have learned a lot by reading your post and it as made my OLD experience a lot easier at times….. so a big Kudos to all.

On to what is making me MAD : What do you do when you realize a aan did not read ALL of what is written is your Profile. As some of you may remember, I was born with a physical disability. One of my first question on this board was whether to mention it in my profile or not . Since then, the fact that I was born with cerebral palsy is VERY CLEARLY disclose in my profile. Nonetheless, this guy ( and about 13 others ) keeps asking me if I ski, dance or would like to try rock climbing….I can understand that most people on OLD sites carry many contacts at once and cannot remember every detail about everyone, but you have to admit this is a “ big oversight”. I find it funny and on the other hand, it makes me mad to get the impression that some men seem to only look at the picture you posted to decide whether to establish contact with you or not…

Is it just me?

Anyways, I am probably going to remind him kindly of my physical state, as I usually do.. And if I’m lucky he will not reply …. Because like most of you Ladies I imagine I want a man who able to read at least a 2000 characters profile . Thank you Ladies for allowing me to vent once again. This may have prevented from sending the following reply on my lunchbreak today :

“Hi D,
Hope you are great ,

No unfortunately, I am not much of a skier ….. Just like some people aren’t much of a reader.”

Just kidding, venting or worse …. ;-O

Take care,
Winnie

Edited 3/8/2006 4:25 pm ET by funnywinnie10

Edited 3/8/2006 4:28 pm ET by funnywinnie10




Edited 3/9/2006 9:55 am ET by funnywinnie10
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Registered: 11-27-2005
Wed, 03-08-2006 - 8:36pm
I think some of these shallow, going for numbers guys need to be taken down a notch. I would send the message, (think it's a great comeback) get a last laugh, and then block his sending me any more messages quickly.
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Registered: 05-19-2005
Thu, 03-09-2006 - 1:03am

Ahhh yes. Men who don't read profiles. So many are guilty of doing this...just be thankful for the ones who still do take time to read!

I think we've all been there, Winnie. My peeves are the guys who write saying how they want children/already have them when in my profile, I've clearly stated my childfree stance and desire to remain that way.

Illiteracy is yet another wonderful aspect of online dating.

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Registered: 10-11-2005
Thu, 03-09-2006 - 6:55am
Hi winnie,
I love your response! There is no reason not to alert the dope that he should have read the profile. It is a minimal expectation on your part.
E
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Registered: 11-05-2005
Thu, 03-09-2006 - 10:31am

Good day Ladies....
Thanks to all of you (Sorry about all the typos in the post English is a 2nd language for me and sometimes it shows) I have decided to take a break from OLD for a while. Because I feel I am too trusting and I imagined have too many times that people would be as honest and open as I believe I was, when in fact they weren’t. So before becoming an "angry old maid" who's constantly on the defensive. I rather pause and reflect on what as happen, what I want how and in the future...

It is funny how I seem to be very attracted to some men and when it came time to meet them for the 1st or 2nd time it seems I would do something wrong and they never call back or reply to my emails. Or on the contrary, the ones that are of no interest to me would "fill up" my mailbox. At times, I just feel like I am the biggest part of my own "problem", if a problem there is, or my own personal "saboteur". Maybe I am not as ready for a relationship as I thought I was...

Thanks again for "being there"
Winnie

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Thu, 03-09-2006 - 10:40am

Actually, I think your reply is PERFECT! Except I would take out the "hope you are great" bit LOL!


It gets the point across in a nice little zing but, in theory still gives a decent guy a chance to re-read your profile and decide if he wants to apologize and try to continue. You might get a nasty reply back so you decide if you want to bother taking that chance.


Sometimes it's best not to reply at all, I usually don't, unless they said something exceptionally obnoxious or clueless or we are obviously a really incompatible match.

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Thu, 03-09-2006 - 1:45pm
I hate getting emails from guys who are into hard rock music, smoke heavily, and don't want children.

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