Had a Great First Meet

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Had a Great First Meet
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Thu, 04-28-2005 - 9:19am

I went out to a meet last night and had a great time. It started with ice cream and then we (mostly he) ended up having dinner. I'd already eaten so I just had a bite.

He is very nice, funny (a little geeky, but I like them like that) and very intelligent.

He also asked me how long I thought it took a relationship to get off the ground. I, of course, told him it took time and we agreed on that. Now the key question is what kind of relationship? I'll be asking that shortly.

In the meatime, WOOOHOOOO!!!

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Thu, 04-28-2005 - 9:36am

cbmroz...


CONGRATULATIONS on a great 1st date!


But is it really necessary to start analyzing this relationship right now?

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Thu, 04-28-2005 - 11:25am

Woohoo is right, CB..glad to hear it! When are you going out again?

PG, I think you may have misunderstood CB's comment. She's not asking about *THEIR* (non-existent, at this point) relationship, but rather what TYPE of r'ship he's looking for, in general, so that she doesn't waste time with someone who's just looking for a casual fling.

Sheri

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Thu, 04-28-2005 - 4:00pm

Hi Sheri!


PG still thinks it's a little early for cbmroz

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Thu, 04-28-2005 - 4:09pm

But it wouldn't be "intentions" that are being analyzed, merely whether or not the guy is open to a serious r'ship (or whatever it is that CB wants).

I always ask that question early on, because it's my experience that a man who's doing online dating, and who *really* wants a serious r'ship (with *someone*, not necessarily with ME), has given the issue some thought and isn't afraid to put it out there. Also, asking so early in the dating process makes it clear that I'm not asking what he's looking for with ME, I'm asking a general question about his relationship goals.

Sheri

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Thu, 04-28-2005 - 4:44pm
Are you saying you don't think it's ok to ask up front (second or third date) what kind of relationship someone is looking for? I think it's really helpful to know if people are just looking or would like to get serious or don't think they will ever get married for instance. I wouldn't expect someone to know if they want to marry ME or not in three or four dates, but I don't think it's unrealistic to find out if the person is generally interested in settling down. I think you're going to disagree with me ...
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Thu, 04-28-2005 - 4:45pm
We were both typing the same sentiment at the same time, but you said it so much better than I ...
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Thu, 04-28-2005 - 11:01pm

In general with OLD, I ask them when we are first speaking on the phone, if it hasn't come up sooner. If all they are initerested in is a fling, I want to know that before I commit to even a first date?

Jennifer

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Fri, 04-29-2005 - 8:32am

iamdelightful...


Contrary to what Sheri (northwestwanderer) indicated....cl/Pianoguy doesn't think there's a generic time frame for this.

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Fri, 04-29-2005 - 9:36am

Thanks all for your input and I think I might wait just a little bit on this.

He is new to OLD and I don't want to scare him away.

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Fri, 04-29-2005 - 9:46am

Sorry I gotta butt in here...

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