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| Fri, 10-14-2005 - 1:23pm |
I had this real nice chat with this guy today. We were talking about people and their "hang ups" and why they're looking for someone online. I told him my "hangups" and reasons why I choose to meet people online. I told him with kids and working long hours on the weekend, it's nearly impossible for me to meet anyone except online.
Well, we talked about other stuff for a while, and then out of the blue he says "you wanna know what my hangup is?" Well, he told me he was paralyzed at 11 from an accident, and within the last few years, he is walking again. Now I would have never known this from the pics. He says his other "hang up" is that he's real skinny, (didn't see that he was this skinny in the pics) he's only 140 lbs! I was thinking about meeting him, but now I don't know, I don't know if I'd be attracted to him, (I weigh about the same as he does, lol.) He sounded like a nice guy, had things going for him, good job, but he says he walks with a very distinct limp too. Maybe I'm just shallow?

he says he walks with a very distinct limp too.
I walk really funny too, but I don't have a medical condition that causes it. Every one has their flaws, but you are the one that has to make the final decision about what is acceptable to you or not. No I don't think it would make you shallow if you decide to drop him. It either works for you or it doens't. Some women don't like short men, men with receding hair lines, men with tattoos, men with piercings, men who sweat too much, men who wear leather, men who ride monster trucks, or men who ride motorcycles. Everyone has their own standards.
R.I.
But the last straw was when we were at the food court in the mall and he leaned up against my back, not because he had to but to cop a feel, then gave my butt a big pinch.
He is lucky he didn't fall and hurt himself in the process of pinching you with all the movement and the balance problems that he has from his Cerebral Palsy. One would think someone in his condition wouldn't even try to attempt it for that risk of self-injury that someone in his condition might incur. One would think with all the uncontrollable movements and with the walker that he probably has to use to walk that he wouldn't even be able to grope someone.
R.I.
Disability or not; he still is a MAN! (smile)
The groping and the "hung like a horse" statement was a bit over the top! Geez, a disabled JERK!!!
I met a guy online who had a limp also. After talking to him a few times, it came out that he wanted a really good-looking woman b/c he wanted people to look at him and say "wow, look the girl he has..." Well for me, I don't want to play trophy to anyone. In every conversation, his disability also came up. It seemed to me that he wasn't comfy with it so how could I be?
If you're interested, then one date can't kill ya. But if your guts are saying eh... then listen to them. :o)
For what it's worth...I don't think it's shallow to not be attracted to someone because of something physical about them. It would be one thing if you knew the person & were in a situation where you came to like them, then had more feelings develop - you might not even notice whatever it was after time. But for blind dating or OLD, it's different.
I went out with a guy who turned out to be very short, shorter than me (I'm 5'3"). I was not attracted to him. If I had liked his personality, I might have gone out with him again, but he didn't have an attractive personality either. Also, I can't stand tatoos. I just can't get past it. I wouldn't want to date someone I'm not attracted to simply in order to not be shallow.